Peter_pan Posted February 17, 2008 Posted February 17, 2008 (edited) ok just thinking about the end of my relationship and wanted an opinion. we kind of grew apart due to living together so young and argued about house hold things. so we decided we both needed some "space" and it was ALWAYS in my mind that we would get back together. i moved into spare room. a month went by, we where still intimate and she was looking at houses to buy, i went with her to ALL of them. and she asked me to move in with her.... i didn't no what to say since the arguments where bad and what if it happened again plus i wasnt 100% she was the one for me since she has been my only serious gf? another month went by and she got a new job. i noticed she started to change and at this point i grew jealous of her absence and her dressing up to go out without me, and her new job and this so called manager she talked about. at this point i did want her back since i would be moving out and thought we could work things out this way. but she declared she didn't want me back and didn't want to work things out and that we grew apart and "it happens". then 2 weeks later she admits she is seeing new guy. so... yes i was a fool for not grabbing the chance when she wanted it but i wasnt ready.. so was it her fault for not waiting or moving on without me and not letting me know. was she the one that "broke it off" and "let go"? or is she in this new relationship because she dosnt want to be lonely. problem is I made it VERY clear how i felt and she went and did this anyway Edited February 17, 2008 by Peter_pan
s_n_d Posted February 17, 2008 Posted February 17, 2008 Who is at fault isnt an issue anymore. You need to focus on moving on OR Trying to make a reconciliation with your ex. The past doesnt matter anymore. You need to make your future better.
Author Peter_pan Posted February 17, 2008 Author Posted February 17, 2008 (edited) thank you, you are right. well i did try and make a reconciliation with my ex. but she would NEVER admit to being wrong. she even said i never lied to you pete.... i mean BS. so i said she hid the truth. and she still wasn't happy i was calling her a lier. i mean she did lie didnt she... or am i crazy. she is so sure she never did anything wrong. thats what pisses me off tbh even though when we did argue about me an her she would say she knows its selfish and she is the one that is sorry. but at that point i think she was referring to not wanting me back. then this new relationship she is in apparently just happened. even though all the times i spoke to her about him she seemed uncomfortable and she even said at one point what does he matter to you and she wasnt sure what was going to happen. so i asked her is it what you are planning.. she said no she dosnt no what will happen in the future. also the fact she told her mum she HAD told me about HIM and made it perfectly clear she didnt want me..... again BS. i only knew for SURE in the email she sent me im not dumb i suspected this all along... just NEVER envisioned her doing this oh and one more thing, she sent the email on a saturday i saw her on the thursday before hand and on the phone on the following monday she said they had been going on dates. oh right so she couldn't have told me on the thursday when i saw her. and so she is basically saying they had been dating... what on the fri and sat before the email LOL ..... lier!! grr Edited February 17, 2008 by Peter_pan
s_n_d Posted February 17, 2008 Posted February 17, 2008 No problem. I never thought my ex was the kind of person who would EVER turn this cold...to me especially. I was watching a tv show a while back and someone on it said, "A persons true colors come out in a crisis." My ex and yours (it seems) have definitely shown us their true colors and it hurts that they could ever treat us this way.
Author Peter_pan Posted February 17, 2008 Author Posted February 17, 2008 yeah my mum said that about the true colours. why on earth does it happen? what did i ever do so wrong. why did she have to change on me. i am seriously thinking of moving to a different university and starting a new life for myself. i did tell her this. she didn't seem fussed, after all she has a house up hear now. thats her for at least the next 10 yrs i mean certain clubs, cinema's, sites. all remind me of her. we moved to edinburgh to enjoy a new life together. not for me to end up fending for myself. to make matters worse her best friend is in a relationship with my best friend and she said they are moving up into her new house. where does that leave me then? this is a night mare. why cant she ditch this new idiot and come back to me. give us a better chance.
s_n_d Posted February 17, 2008 Posted February 17, 2008 Almost everything reminds me of my ex. These days have been better but Im still getting constant reminders of him. Its tough because I know that we probably never will get back together seeing as he NEVER talks to me anymore. Today is 18 days NC for me. It seems as though its getting easier for me with time but then I still have days when I breakdown for no rhyme or reason.
Author Peter_pan Posted February 17, 2008 Author Posted February 17, 2008 shall i contact her? tell her i really really miss her and want her back in my life so much. and i am sorry for ever ever thinking there would be someone as good as her or better when there ISNT. And i would never have those thoughts again. and that i would never be angry for being in the relationship again or take her for granted in any shape or form. i love everything about her from her really white skin to the mole below her left breast and her slippy banana feet (when she was in bed and started to drift off she would jump but slide down the bed and i would call it slippy banana feet). this is HELL not being with her.
s_n_d Posted February 17, 2008 Posted February 17, 2008 Aww. I know how your feeling. Life without my ex is truly hell too. Please DONT contact her. She already knows how you feel. Shes just going to drift farther away from you if you keep contacting her. Have you tried doing NC?
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