onmyownagain Posted February 17, 2008 Posted February 17, 2008 My stbxw, has been in NC for the last few weeks apart from a couple of texts. I texted her last Monday to ask if she had sorted out her own car insurance and cancelled mine (she was on my policy and had arranged it herself), there were a couple of polite exchanges text exchanges between us and then she said I had a lot of mail at the house, would I like it sent on? I said okay so she sent it in a taxi. Just four letters!!! Then yesterday she texts to say the postman had tried to leave me a parcel and that she had been to town to pick it up but they wouldn't let her have if because it was addressed to me? Why would she go to town to do that? Very strange.
Gunny376 Posted February 17, 2008 Posted February 17, 2008 Let it go! Its part of the "process" its your mind playing tricks on you! Its an illussion! Its you a "drowning man" grasping at straws! Sorry Mate, but the only difference between your marriage and the Titantic is the Titantic had a band playing as she slipped beneath the waves? She's crazy for leaving ~ but its like the old-aged watress at the diner told me in New Mexico as my ex-hex boarded the Greyhound and told me "Man! She's crazy for leaving, but just let her go!" "Man! Just LET her go!!!!!"
PinkRibbon Posted February 17, 2008 Posted February 17, 2008 Onmyownagain I would not read in to it. Some people are just like that with things like mail and car insurance. In fact my stbx husband is the same way. On the 6th he emailed about car insurance. Here I told him finally not to contact me and he emails about the car insurance. The car is in my name and we have never had joint insurance. But the insurance expires at the end of the month and I need to put it in my name?? Go figure he insured it under his name also just incase I guess....So I didn't read into it. In fact I never answered and neither should you. My stbx is just OCD about stuff like mail, which he has done, and car insurance. I wish it was hopeful but it is not. Let it go and you'll feel better.
br0ken_w0lf Posted February 17, 2008 Posted February 17, 2008 I would also like to suggest not to read into it. May be something, may be nothing but you'll drive yourself crazy wondering about it. Trust me - my wife left 7 months ago, is in a relationship with and living with someone else - yet sometimes, she still calls me and says she misses me (?). The urge to speculate is extremely strong but try to resist it. Take care...
Author onmyownagain Posted February 18, 2008 Author Posted February 18, 2008 She texted me last night to say she is going into hospital on Wednesday. I asked if it is anything serious and she said nothing to worry about. Why tell me then!
smileysmile Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 Onmyownagain.. lol I am loving your posts You are looking into it to much though I don't blame you as I would be the same. If you are giving NC then she is wondering what you are doing. This is what you should keep doing. Respond to her texts but not immediately. Give it an hour or so. Polite replies. Not to much. I wish I got what your getting but I am not although I do have to see ex because of our D. I mean I texted her last Saturday just gone to see how our D was because I had her the day before and she had a cold and was sick. My ex replied in 5 minutes compared to other times. It all depends what I am texting about I guess. Stay cool
Author onmyownagain Posted February 18, 2008 Author Posted February 18, 2008 Cheers Smiley, Honestly, she is driving me nuts :-)
Chrome Barracuda Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 She texted me last night to say she is going into hospital on Wednesday. I asked if it is anything serious and she said nothing to worry about. Why tell me then! This is called pushing your buttons, See it's all manipulation. And games. She stringing you along that's all it boils down to. Keep it moving and stop focusing on her and do things for you.
Author onmyownagain Posted February 18, 2008 Author Posted February 18, 2008 She texted me today to say one of the family pets had died and could I text my daughter because she is really upset. Then texted to say if wasn't her fault the animal died?
Chrome Barracuda Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 She texted me today to say one of the family pets had died and could I text my daughter because she is really upset. Then texted to say if wasn't her fault the animal died? Who cares who fault it is that the animal died? That isnt your problem, yes console your kid but movew on from her. She sounds very manipulative. If it aint nothing legal, or anything to do with the kids then NC.
Author onmyownagain Posted February 18, 2008 Author Posted February 18, 2008 Who cares who fault it is that the animal died? That isnt your problem, yes console your kid but movew on from her. She sounds very manipulative. If it aint nothing legal, or anything to do with the kids then NC. I guess she is leaning on me, feels strange to be needed but I know it is not good for me really. Hopefully she will go back into NC now. Makes if easier for me if she does.
Chrome Barracuda Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 I guess she is leaning on me, feels strange to be needed but I know it is not good for me really. Hopefully she will go back into NC now. Makes if easier for me if she does. Good. But you need to have boundries as well. If she calls just ask. If it aint about the kids or legal stuff then I gotta go. You dont need to talk to her. She messed up everything and wonders why your so distant or want nothing to do with her. just tell her. I'd rather not speak with you anymore unless it's about important things. If your not going to reconsile 100% then what's the point with the small talk.
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