Author dont know what to do Posted February 26, 2008 Author Posted February 26, 2008 this story is very similar to mine and how you feel too. but i don't think i like the sound of this guy - how he used you for sex to start with, how he lied to you about his circumstances, how he won't let you go even after you both decided it would be best, how he insults his wife....he sounds really bad news. i would do my best to end it, although it seems like it will be really hard with you feeling the way you do and seeing him all the time. i just don't feel he will make you happy. and God will be there for you when you're ready to turn to Him, don't worry. In the beginning, it was just sex for both of us...he did not use me for sex! We talked about it and things started out as being just for fun and nothing serious. He did lie to me and he fessed up and took responsibility for that. It's not just him who won't let go...it's both of us! I don't want to be apart from him and I reached out to him, he responded and asked me back into his life. It was both of us making the decision to carry on with this A. And how does he insult his W??? He doesn't say anything negative about her at all.
Author dont know what to do Posted February 26, 2008 Author Posted February 26, 2008 Could it just be that something is missing in his character? That he is the one lacking, not the marriage or the wife. There are some people who are just cake eaters or unable to find happiness within themselves,so they can only find it with someone else for a little while. And you should never need another person to feel complete, JMHO. You should feel complete without him. I guess so...I mean, I don't know what he's like at home because I'm not there. Maybe he is to blame for the "demise" of his M, IDK, but I won't find out unless I was to talk to his W which won't be happening! But M takes two, to build it or to break it! Like I said before, I don't know the details so I can't make an educated comment about their home life, but I was M for over 4 yrs and while the majority of our downfall was war related and out of our control, there were def things both of us did to make things less than ideal, to weaken the walls of our M which allowed those issues from war to chip away at our M. It is always a two way street in any R. I wouldn't go as far as calling him a cake eater. I work with him and I see how he interacts with his coworkers, his partners...he's a team player and he's trustworthy with the responsibilities they give him there. His manager holds him in very high esteem and so does everyone he works with. I believe that if you're a greedy snake or you lack integrity in one aspect of your life, it would feed into every other area. But that is JMHO! I feel complete as a person without a man, but haven't you ever felt like something was missing and then you met someone, a friend or a mate, and you just feel like they are the final piece to the puzzle and now your life feels complete??? I've felt that way with friends before...like having them in your life made your circle of friends complete!!! That is exactly how I feel with my MM.
LILA BELL Posted February 26, 2008 Posted February 26, 2008 Most likely you have set yourself up he is a MM they all lie same bulls**t. I don't love my W anymore. We don't have sex. We dont even sleep in the same room. Im only here for the kids. I love you . You make me feel great. I'm leaving her soon..... I'm leaving her soon..... I'm leaving her soon..... Umm ok i'm leaving her soon. These are all just sh**y excuses,fact is if MM really wanted to be with us and really loved us they would have already left .
whichwayisup Posted February 26, 2008 Posted February 26, 2008 Lila Belle, repost your reply on hopeful08's thread as she needs to 'see' what her MM is really like.
Author dont know what to do Posted February 26, 2008 Author Posted February 26, 2008 Most likely you have set yourself up he is a MM they all lie same bulls**t. I don't love my W anymore. We don't have sex. We dont even sleep in the same room. Im only here for the kids. I love you . You make me feel great. I'm leaving her soon..... I'm leaving her soon..... I'm leaving her soon..... Umm ok i'm leaving her soon. These are all just sh**y excuses,fact is if MM really wanted to be with us and really loved us they would have already left . Being completely honest...he hasn't said any of those things to me with the exception of the huge fight they had for a few weeks where he told her to leave and told me he was done with her, but then she begged him to stay and he did. But ever since then, I have not heard it again. He has never made me any promises...
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