Slippy72 Posted February 16, 2008 Posted February 16, 2008 To be fair I've written out my history with this one girl so many times that I can't face doing so again. The basic gist of it is that we had a 4 year relationship that ended last February. From abut February to September I barely spoke to her or heard from her. Then suddenly, she started contacting me loads and telling me how much she missed me. This lasted until abut November when the contact became far less. I'm still in love with her. And it's hard because we see each other all the time now as friends. We're really good friends in fact which isn't what I want. I want more with her. How can I get away from being in this 'just friends' zone and get back into the game so to speak?
Seaman Staines Posted February 16, 2008 Posted February 16, 2008 You need to act when she starts contacting you again. This means she is on the rebound from a breakup, and it's your chance to move in. The contact became far less because she is hooking up with a new guy. Next time, understand the signs.
Author Slippy72 Posted February 16, 2008 Author Posted February 16, 2008 I never told her the extent of how I missed her, in fact I barely told her at all. I just went on playing this whole hard to get thing because it seemed to be working. Do you think I should maybe just come right out and tell her?
Seaman Staines Posted February 16, 2008 Posted February 16, 2008 I just went on playing this whole hard to get thing because it seemed to be working. That will just make her more relaxed, and cement you as friend material only. Do you think I should maybe just come right out and tell her? You have to wait until she contacts you again. Right now she is getting busy with her new squeeze.
s_n_d Posted February 16, 2008 Posted February 16, 2008 Honestly I think you need to NOT expect a reconciliation otherwise if it doesnt happen (its likely that it wont), you will be even more hurt. Stay strong. Just take things slow as if you were never in a relationship to begin with. You cant rush into these things especially a reconciliation.
Author Slippy72 Posted February 16, 2008 Author Posted February 16, 2008 You're exactly right, I'm not really expecting a reconciliation right now. I just want one that's all. Really badly. I guess I'm just confused how to act when around her now that we're friends (even though I want more)?
selena_cat Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 best way is to cut off contact,NC, how can they miss you if yorue always in their sphere of influence, This is not a tool to get her back but it raises your chance,and makes you as unavailabe as she is. Think about it
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