lucygirl24 Posted February 16, 2008 Posted February 16, 2008 recently my boyfriend and i of 8 months had been finding it difficult to spend time with each other. i admit i have been struggling lately and not putting all of my effort into making our relationship work. i have been finding it hard to spend time with him due to our friend groups and he is fed up. he broke up with me last month because he felt like i wasn't taking the relationship seriously. 10 days later we agreed we would both make some changes and give it another go because we really cared about each other. these changes were effective for a few weeks and then started to go back to our old ways. i want a serious relationship as much as he does but he just doesn't see that he is part of the reason that it is difficult. 3 days ago he told me that he was fed up and wanted to break it up. i told him that i diddnt want to end it.. i wanted to fix it but if he was over me maybe it would be for the best. He then said.. " it neva ends up going the way we want tho. can we have a break so i can think about what i want i swear i wont go near any girs. i told him that i reckon i can grow up and agreed to the break and told him that he should have a think about it and call me when he is ready. i honestly believe that if we were to have a second chance i would put all of my effort into making it work because i really want it. i do believe he will make his decision fairly quickly because that is the sort of guy he is. Do you think that there is any potential of us getting back together? and i do not understand a 'break' fully, should we talk or should i wait for him to contact me first? should i invite him over to talk it out properly or will that scare him off and defeit the purpose of a break. thank you so much, lucy
eagle5 Posted February 16, 2008 Posted February 16, 2008 Hi lucy, Sorry to hear you are in a bad situation at the moment. From what you've said you both sound like sensible people, it seems that a break could be the best thing for you. If he is fed up, it's for a reason and he needs to sort that out in his head. If you were meant to be together then it will happen, obviously being together right now isn't working. I would wait a fair while before you contact him, set yourself a target e.g. 2 weeks or something like that where you go nil contact (nc). It will help you discover yourself again in that time and will also give him a chance to miss you. Then (if he hasn't contacted you), maybe arrange to meet for a drink and have a talk about things. It's easier said than done of course but having that time to yourself will also help you if he decides not to come back, it'll give you a chance to prepare for either outcome. Keep posting on here though, and have a good read of other threads, there is a wealth of good advice on here. Keep strong Lucy............ Eagle
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