cotton_candy Posted February 16, 2008 Posted February 16, 2008 Hi guys I am nearly 22 years old and i want to know why i prefer the older men than guys my own age in having sex. I have always preferred the older man...older the better! i find younger guys always rush and miss my breasts!!! My friend found out and said im 'sick' and need therapy! and that old men are just using me, and i should stop this self destructive behaviour! What are your thoughts?
Ronni_W Posted February 16, 2008 Posted February 16, 2008 (edited) Around that age, most guys are in too great a rush to get to the "finish line" and also don't know really know their way around (which may because they're in such a hurry so they never take the time.) Most older guys have more experience (emotionally & physically) and a bit of finesse -- IMO, it is smart not "sick" to seek mutually pleasurable sex. But. When you get to 40+, the younger guys will have the stamina and you'll have the confidence to slow 'em down and show 'em how you like it I guess it all evens out, in the end. (Yes, I know that generalizing paints an inaccurate and incomplete picture, but I'm just talking in general, and from a little bit of personal experience.) EDIT TO ADD: If you are okay with things, and not feeling "used" or demeaned or whatever, then it is fine. You are old enough to make decisions about why and with whom you have sex. Edited February 16, 2008 by Ronni_W
Curmudgeon Posted February 17, 2008 Posted February 17, 2008 What qualifies as an older man? Besides, while younger women may be very alluring, I have daughters in their 20s and 30s so to me, a younger woman would have to be in her 40s or early 50s!
JerseyShortie Posted February 17, 2008 Posted February 17, 2008 I have always preferred the older man...older the better! i find younger guys always rush and miss my breasts!!! My friend found out and said im 'sick' and need therapy! and that old men are just using me, and i should stop this self destructive behaviour! What are your thoughts? Well are they using you? Seriously, this is not something anyone here is going to be able to answer, neither is it something your friends can answer. You will get alot of men here telling you: "hey that's great date older men!" Doesn't mean it's great, it also doesn't mean it's bad. Only you know if you feel like you are being used of if you feel sick about it. After you have been with an older man do you feel bad about the situation and yourself? If you do, then you might want to take a look at why you seek older guys. As long as you aren't hurting anyone, and you feel good about yourself, that is what matters. There are reasons why we pick certain people, from picking older men, men who make lots of money, men who are the typical bad boy...it could be a bad thing but it doesn't mean it is automatically a bad thing. You got to look at the reasons why you do what you do. Now if the older guys you like are 60 and your 22, errr that might be a little messed up. But if the older guys you are into are late 20s-30s, I don't think that is so bad. But once again, only YOU can answer these questions. And quite honestly, EVERYONE needs therapy at some point in their life lol.
norajane Posted February 17, 2008 Posted February 17, 2008 Aside from older men being more experienced at pleasing a woman during sex, you might be attracted to them because they are more confident, have more money and take you out/treat you to more fancy dinners and whatnot, have more power, as in the case of office romances, or because you have some unresolved daddy issues. Do you feel like they're using you? Some might because they want to feel like they 'still got it' to attract a young woman, they like your younger body, want to impress others by having a young woman on their arm, aren't into commitment and you are less likely to ask for one, etc.
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