smoochie Posted February 16, 2008 Posted February 16, 2008 Hey All, I have been randomly jumping in and out of here and need some clarification on this. Really brief history... My ex ended it with me, told me he couldn't be in a relationship, has issues to work on, blah, blah (I believe him but it's just too much to go into right now...in other posts too.) I don't truly believe he has another woman. Two days after he told me this, with no real contact on my end, he threatens me with a restraining order and tells me under no uncertain terms he never wants to hear from me again....by text no less. He calls me and I curse him out, he curses me out and tells me to hit the road. It was him who said we needed to talk somemore when we ended it but I didn't push the issue. It was only two days later when I asked for some more answers through email that he didn't respond to. (He replied but didnt answer anything.) So needless to say, I have nor had the desire to reach out. A few days later, he deleted me from his myspace page...still I haven't made one effort of contact. I honestly didn't think he would care enough to bother deleting me since he was so mean. Is this really no contact because I feel like he hates me and have no desire to be rejected like that (for no real reason) again either. I notice alot of people want to call and be heard or get some better closure. What category would this fall under? I think about him all day long but will not be spoken to like that again.
dfreeman Posted February 16, 2008 Posted February 16, 2008 If you had any more closure, you'd be dead!
Peter_pan Posted February 16, 2008 Posted February 16, 2008 well to be honest he is being a fool. he knows he is in the wrong and cant handle it so he is trying to get at you. dont play his game. as for closure you tried through email and got no where. like me i tried talking to my ex but she would always get angry and tell me that it wasn't what she wanted blah blah and that she didn't want to give me another chance (then i find out she had a new guy that she was "dating"). so i left it and had NC for 3 weeks and i felt so horrible that she was treating me as if i was the one that had a new gf. so to get rid of my hate and anger i called her and told her how i felt and i did get answers! she just said she was sorry and the feeling weren't the same. so i told her it would be to awkward to stay in contact so now i am leaving it at that. i read somewhere that in order to move on you must forgive (even if that seems impossible) i just accepted its her living her new life not that she was doing anything against me.
SadShamrock Posted February 16, 2008 Posted February 16, 2008 Hi there, My ex either hates me, is so angry at me, or just could give a rat's ass about me anymore. He was mean to me after we broke up. He left his door open so that I could contact him, but when I did, he was cold and down right rude sometimes. I hated him for being mean. Plus, it made me feel horrible. The thing is though that I went looking for it. Obviously, I was not looking to be treated like ****, but I kept contacting him, knowing what kind of reaction I would expect. I think you should do yourself a favor and just forget him. Whether he hates you or is so angry at you that he can't stand to be near you- you need to let him be, because he doesn't really want you there. Maybe a piece of him still loves you, but as long as you continue to contact him- he is going to be mean and hurtful to you. Who knows- maybe in time- he will come around but don't count on that- or hope for it- or expect it. He is being clear that he wants space from you.
SadShamrock Posted February 17, 2008 Posted February 17, 2008 Sorry, my post had a different tone than it should. I am sorry if it came off rude. I am so sorry if I offended or upset you. (No pent up anger here!) What I should have written is that- Don't let him be mean to you. You deserve better than that. Don't contact him now- because you are giving him the opportunity to be mean to you and that's not fair to you. Like I said previously- my ex was being so mean to me, too- post break up. I think I displaced some of my feelings in my previous post and it came off as mean and hurtful. Once again- I'm sorry. I looked for answers when I already knew the most important one- he didn't want to be with me anymore. I guess it's hard to find closure when there is so much uncertainty and unanswered questions. It's even harder to find closure when the other person has found it already. Anyway, I'm so sorry for being a bitch .
mistie03 Posted February 17, 2008 Posted February 17, 2008 Quite honestly, he sounds like a jerk! Forget him. Start new and one day you will find someone that cares about you. I really don't understand why someone has to be such an a**hole to someone that they just broke up with. I think that he could tell you without being so mean. I really don't think that you ever get closure from someone like that. You have to get the closure on your own. That would be by forgetting him and finding someone that isn't a waste of your time. That's the best kind of closure.
sedgwick Posted February 17, 2008 Posted February 17, 2008 There has to be something that happened in the two days between his telling you he didn't want a relationship and threatening you with a restraining order. I mean, what the hell? Did he give you ANY reason why he was angry with you? What went down in that 2-day period?
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