My gf accepts 3 more flowers from different guys :|

[kryptoknight]

My gf accepts those roses and boquet flowers from 3 different guys this past Valentines day. Should I stay cool about it or is it a red flag sign that I should be concern about? We've been dating for almost a year now. I feel like I have to question her about it and ask where did those flowers came from and who are they, but I don't want to start an arguement.

 

Thanks.

[directx]

I'd ask her about it. Wouldn't be super jealous though. Get the story behind them.

 

Can you get 3 flowers and pretend they are from 3 other women?

Probably too late now, but it's a cool thought.

[oppath]

My gf accepts those roses and boquet flowers from 3 different guys this past Valentines day. Should I stay cool about it or is it a red flag sign that I should be concern about? We've been dating for almost a year now. I feel like I have to question her about it and ask where did those flowers came from and who are they, but I don't want to start an arguement.

 

Thanks.

 

Nothing is wrong with starting an argument. I'd ask "so who sent the flowers and what is his deal?" I'd then tell her "I am uncomfortable with you receiving flowers from men on valentines day. Would you be comfortable with me giving flowers to another woman?" It is not controlling or jealous. If they were flowers that every woman got a work, each receiving one, no big deal. If they were a white rose and you personally know the guy and know it is harmless, no big deal. But if you do not know these men, it's a big deal.

 

Think back to when you were single...would you give a woman a flower if you were not interested? Even if you were "friends", chances are, you'd have some interest if you actually gave a flower, right? There are situations where receiving flowers may be ok -- such as every woman in the office receiving one -- but otherwise, it is very shady.

 

You have every right to question her on this. Just ask "so why were those guys giving you flowers? What is their deal?" After she explains, if the context disturbs you, tell her "I don't feel comfortable with other guys giving you flowers in that context."

[kryptoknight]

Right now Im away from here because we are in a long distance relationship. I wouldn't feel much conern if I know the guys and thats the main problem. She told me first before she posted the pictures of those flowers on her profile page that she already accepted those flowers and she said that it was from her friends and some are annonymous. I assumed that those flowers are from guys. I'll ask her those questions and will play it cool. Thanks for the reply...It really makes sense too putting myself in the situation of giving flowers to different women...Seems that shes still in search mode.