jefferino Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 (edited) Hello, Well, I was recently ejected from my relationship...truth be told, I was very deeply in love with this girl. We got together when she was 18 and I was 24 (probably mistake numero uno)...Over the span of our relationship we had GREAT chemistry, laughs, tears, the whole ball of wax. Her family loved me, everything seemed rather perfect. I think our relationship began to become a little too 'routine' and we know how woman LOVE that...and I think her interest level was dropping over time. Well, January 2007 her brother overdosed and died. Very tragic situation. I was one of the Pall Bearers, because of how closely knit I was into their family...He was like a natural brother...Anyway, slowly over the last year, she began acting out in a dramatic fashion. Flirting with guys in a very obvious way right in front of me, rumors of her kissing/sleeping other guys while I was away visiting my brother in California, then ultimately while having a party at our house, she takes one of her male friends, takes a walk, and apparently had voyeuristic sex right out in the open and cheated on me. Well, after I found out, I left, and this lasted all of a week, she calls me back BEGGING for forgiveness, and wanting me in her life...2 months down the road, an argument insued and this was the last straw, kicked me out, dumped me, the whole ball of wax. We did the 'screw like rabbits' thing a month or so following the breakup, and since then, she's turned 21, the holidays have passed, and the 1 year anniversary of her brothers death has passed, and at this point, it seems whatever spark might've still existed is now completely gone. So here I am, happy...talking with plenty of other girls...and yet, I still hang on to this thread of doubt, why things went so sour. The chemistry we both shared I will be hard pressed to find for YEARS, if EVER. And the idea of that is pretty scary. We are communicating again, and I just wished somehow when we've both lived life a little it could work-- Who knows. Believe me, ive read enough stuff to where, most of the responses will be "MOVE ON!" which is cool....but like i said, (and you single people out there can back me up on this) the chemistry we had was magic, and that is just SO hard to find these days...Opinions/Suggestions/Comments? Edited February 16, 2008 by jefferino
guessjeans Posted February 16, 2008 Posted February 16, 2008 I believe in second chances and meant to be's! I am living proof in a way, that your journey in life can take you down different roads, then one day, you are going on with your life and it hits you, that life just isnt the same without that person in your life. Perhaps it took you dating, that no other woman is quite like her. Maybe the two of you just lost your way. Life can throw things at us, at times, when we feel we just cant handle anymore. Lots of reasons why relationships break up, but only a very few make their way back to each other. If you truly believe that the two of you had a special connection, that you believe is still there now, then follow your heart and talk to her about your feelings. What do you have to lose? She cant kill you...the worse that can happen is that she doesnt feel the same way, then you know, that things just werent meant to be. No regrets
Whey2Big4u Posted February 16, 2008 Posted February 16, 2008 well, girls ive found change from when they are young. for some rerason at 21 they need to find themselves. I was witht this girl for 6 years, got engaged, planning wedding, etc. Yes we had our rough spots, but who doesnt, but everything was going well. We had an amazing chemistry and anyone who knew us saw it. Well out of no where and I mean nowhere she tells me to meet her someplace with her freinds, when i got there she broke up with me. Well long story short I too will be wondering what. Yes i have gotten on partner wise, but its not the same. The way i see it is, althoaugh everyone i know and im sure you get this too is..........move on, shes not for you, but they dont know what you two had when they werent around........Keep enjoying this time being single, find yourself, but also if you want try to get her back. But on the other hand do you really want her back after what she did. Its hard yes....but this is how i see it. Forgive and forget or relive and regret. Things to consider: she cheated on you with you there.....Yes everyone is entitiled to mistakes, but this seemed planned the way you said it.
Author jefferino Posted February 18, 2008 Author Posted February 18, 2008 Thanks alot of for the advice guys, much appreciated!
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