xchilde_haroldx Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 Hi, I've been dating a girl from work for about two and a half months now. Although we've been careful to keep things quiet at work we email a few times a day and meet up a couple of times a week. After our 4th or 5th date we had sex and have continued to do so after every date since. She's a real workaholic and said she thinks it's important for a young girl in journalism to appear single which kind of concerned me at first but I do agree to an extent. However, when she took me to a private party and introduced me to a large group of her friends it reassured me that she actually did like me and that perhaps we'd soon admit to ourselves we were in a relationship. I'm really into her, she's amazing, intelligent and beautiful and I have no problem telling her so. I spent three years mucking girls around after the break up of a six year relationship and she is the first person I’ve really liked since. She gets a little awkward if I compliment her but acts giggly, happy and very into me the rest of the time we’re together. However, this week was obviously Valentines. I wanted to take her out but she got very flaky and non-committal and kept bringing up the fact she had lots of work on and wasn’t sure she should. Despite professing to hate Valentines she did buy me a really sweet gift but I kind of had to push her into having a drink after work, which she agreed to eventually agreed to, but with the intention of ‘talking about things’. She said quite that she knew what was coming and she knew it was time to "categorise everything" which to me sounded a little negative. She told me that at the moment her first priority had to be work and that she'd got grown a little concerned we were going moving too fast. She said she was aware I'd been hurt before and that with me really liking her so much and with her work commitments, she was concerned that she'd do the same thing. I pointed out as far as I was aware, I’d never come between her and her work and that we were actually moving quite slowly. I also mentioned how I was aware I’d probably come across a bit over keen but let her know that I was happy as things stand and that (and to an extent this isn’t quite true) I didn’t mind coming second to her work. She agreed I’d never affected her work and on thinking about we were moving slower than she thought. She got a bit upset about the fact I’d said I didn’t mind coming second and said that wasn’t how she wanted me to feel and it wasn’t what she meant. Before long she changed the subject and we went back to having fun, kissing and hugging and acting like a couple. It was really nice and bumping into our workmates outside she was surprisingly calm about them seeing us. In an email today she apologised for being rubbish yesterday which I’m not sure is referring to the fact she was being flaky about Valentines, feeling bad about bringing all the stuff up or if she was actually apologising because she felt she’d been wrong about how she felt. She ignored the subject when I asked what she’d meant by that and instead kept pushing the fact she was really busy today and asking me what I’d been up to. She certainly seemed fine but there’s something that feels a little off with it all. Was she trying to break up and lost her nerve as I inadvertently talked her out of it? She certainally is not as responsive as normal and it’s driving me a little crazy seeing her on the other side of the office and not knowing how she feels but I don’t want to drag it all up again and look even more like I’m being needy! I’m not sure if I’m just thinking too much about it and have lost clarity so please let me know what you think! I’d really appreciate it!
Author xchilde_haroldx Posted February 16, 2008 Author Posted February 16, 2008 do excuse the long post!
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