Mary3 Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 Imagine the Reality : You've got a 335 lb man sitting in his extra large boxer shorts breathing heavily from heart pain as he sits on the computer 12 hours a day , he's posted a pic (of a model) for himself , knowing the * unknowing * victims will gush and want to be his friend. As he swigs down another beer ( number 8 ) and wipes the sweat off his forehead , he yells for his wife when is dinner ? , while he minimizes the screen when she walks into the room. You wonder after 354 emails why he does not want to meet ? Why he can't call ever ? Why you don't know where he lives ? As he slaps his wife for over cooking the roast beef , then later logs on to his dating site where he lists himself as single while he pushes the over due bills off the desk hiding them from his wife . He says he's 6 foot 2 , 198 lbs and a hottie wanting a gorgeous young 22 year old with a model figure...sure sure... Now we know why .......
Ocean-Blue Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 Imagine the Reality : You've got a 335 lb man sitting in his extra large boxer shorts breathing heavily from heart pain as he sits on the computer 12 hours a day , he's posted a pic (of a model) for himself , knowing the * unknowing * victims will gush and want to be his friend. As he swigs down another beer ( number 8 ) and wipes the sweat off his forehead , he yells for his wife when is dinner ? , while he minimizes the screen when she walks into the room. You wonder after 354 emails why he does not want to meet ? Why he can't call ever ? Why you don't know where he lives ? As he slaps his wife for over cooking the roast beef , then later logs on to his dating site where he lists himself as single while he pushes the over due bills off the desk hiding them from his wife . He says he's 6 foot 2 , 198 lbs and a hottie wanting a gorgeous young 22 year old with a model figure...sure sure... Now we know why ....... The internet is a wicked tool. One can lie and never be caught. You can create an image and thrive on it - a fantasy world where others praise you for your beauty. It is the haven of the insecure and obsessed.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 Imagine the Reality : You've got a 335 lb man sitting in his extra large boxer shorts breathing heavily from heart pain as he sits on the computer 12 hours a day ,..... Um I won't lie you may have a point about the lack of honestly on line. But just wondering are ALL larger people freaks to you? Or just the ones lieing on line? I'm just wondering how much the weight issue is in play here?
Ocean-Blue Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 Um I won't lie you may have a point about the lack of honestly on line. But just wondering are ALL larger people freaks to you? Or just the ones lieing on line? I'm just wondering how much the weight issue is in play here? Can't speak for the OP... But I interpreted it as a kind of extreme b/w what the OP thinks is attractive and what the OP finds unattractive.
BlueEyedGirl Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 Frankly, I don't know about OP but I don't find obese men attractive. Simple as that. I don't find myself attractive when I'm overweight either, so I watch my weight and I expect a future bf to do the same. Also OP is right about interent dating. I can't stand it.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 Frankly, I don't know about OP but I don't find obese men attractive. Simple as that. I don't find myself attractive when I'm overweight either, so I watch my weight and I expect a future bf to do the same. Also OP is right about interent dating. I can't stand it. Thats fine and I agree people have their rights to their personal opinions. But theirs no need to go around calling overweight people freaks in general. Thats the part I disagree with every one deserves respect no matter what color race size or age they are. Thats why I was interested in getting to the core of this thread may just be an angry resentful rant fair enough just wondering thats all.
Pyro Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 Imagine the Reality : You've got a 335 lb man sitting in his extra large boxer shorts breathing heavily from heart pain as he sits on the computer 12 hours a day , he's posted a pic (of a model) for himself , knowing the * unknowing * victims will gush and want to be his friend. As he swigs down another beer ( number 8 ) and wipes the sweat off his forehead , he yells for his wife when is dinner ? , while he minimizes the screen when she walks into the room. You wonder after 354 emails why he does not want to meet ? Why he can't call ever ? Why you don't know where he lives ? As he slaps his wife for over cooking the roast beef , then later logs on to his dating site where he lists himself as single while he pushes the over due bills off the desk hiding them from his wife . He says he's 6 foot 2 , 198 lbs and a hottie wanting a gorgeous young 22 year old with a model figure...sure sure... Now we know why ....... In my version, its not his wife, but rather his mother in her house and down in the basement. There are some crazy and sick people out there.
Ruby Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 I think the 'fat' point was made because he was pretending to be a model and really he was a big fat wife beating slothe! A big fat sweaty man pretending to be a model is what online dating is about lol
Dynamo Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 That is the risk with internet dating, unfortunately. Honestly, I despise internet hook up sites - I don't know, maybe I'm just old fashioned (even though I'm growing up in the "computer generation"..) but I still think YOU should meet them face to face, not have some website present you with people with common interests. Takes all the work out of it! That being said though, ALL means of meeting new people have their disadvantages. I mean, meeting someone in a bar or club, while they may seem fine on the outside, could really be a psychopath or something. Drug your drinks and next thing you know you wake up in their basement! xD Glad I don't have to worry about that stuff, since I'm a guy. Haha.
Author Mary3 Posted February 15, 2008 Author Posted February 15, 2008 I should add that I prefer larger men. Up to 250 lbs with that muscular thick frame. I should not have put * freaks * as a reference to overweight men because I actually prefer a man with meat . ( The freaks term is related to these men who are being way over the top decietful about ANYTHING that might not be attractive to most females ) I have dated 250 lbs but when it gets past 260 thats too big for me. I know alot of women who would think 220 lbs might be too big. But the REAL point of my post is that this IS going on , whether he be an obese man hiding behind the screen , a married man , a man in deep debt ( hoping some innocent person will bail him out ) a serial internet cheater , a gross pig with bad hygeine habits . That was the point with my spoof satire although sadly many of those men do exist. I have met some , 3 were married ( thankfully never met them ) but their wives called me ! So the true point is : Don't take too long to meet this person you think is * the one * ( which however I don't believe in the *one* anymore ...maybe the One Right Now.... ) Don't ever send money , don't believe his sob stories that he is eventually going to divorce his wife ( he won't ) Don't believe the cash and cars ( for those who think that's important ) DO believe his ACTIONS . Can you visit his friends ? Come over his house ? Meet his family ? How does he treat the wait staff ? People in general. All of THOSE things take time , lots of quality time to get to know him
EYECANDY000 Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 I agree that you can basically create a fantasy world on the internet, but whats the difference between that and someone who is an habitual liar to your face. My friend always tell me not to do online dating because the people on their is crazy, but I tell her those are the same people who you run across in every day life. She still begs to differ!
Author Mary3 Posted February 15, 2008 Author Posted February 15, 2008 I agree that you can basically create a fantasy world on the internet, but whats the difference between that and someone who is an habitual liar to your face. My friend always tell me not to do online dating because the people on their is crazy, but I tell her those are the same people who you run across in every day life. She still begs to differ! Well beautiful EYECANDY : the BIG difference is , you can spend months looking at a fake photo , no photo , cropped photo , brothers photo allllllllll the while he is procurring you , grooming you , swooning you and by the time you meet ( if ever ) he is going to say " Oh I am sorry that photo is from 1972 " lol I had a guy send me a photo , he had dark hair , laying on a chaise lounge looking all hella sexy , but when I met him , he was 28 years older ! I kid you not. Thankfully he was a gentleman and I never said :" Hey your hair is all grey~white and you look 25 years older " I didn't say it. But thats why my online dating interest has gone wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy down , lol ! Yes they can lie EYECANDY in bars , gyms , libraries . BUT the lie is caught rather sooner than later
EYECANDY000 Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 Oh I totally agree!! One thing I have learned that if I speak to someone online and they send me their picture and I am interested , I give them two weeks. If I havent met you in two weeks then I cut them short. Ive spoke to people on the phone, IM, for almost a month and when we finally met... I felt like it was a waste of time. Ive also met people who submitted a piture of themselves when they were several years younger. Just like you stated. I think a internet conversation shouldnt last any more than two weeks!
jerbear Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 I keep my internet dating conversation to within two weeks after initial contact. After two weeks, the cord is cut and NEXT! Talking about pictures, I need to update mine to 1975 instead of 1972 I'm a guy and I approve of this method! Best to keep it short and meet in person, no point having an emailing or texting relationship. Do that after a number of dates and a few months have past.
tanbark813 Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 Men aren't the only ones who misrepresent themselves on dating sites. I've met girls through online sites that looked very different once we met in person.
Author Mary3 Posted February 16, 2008 Author Posted February 16, 2008 Yes Tanbark , women do it too. Alot of the men that I talked to said when they met the online babes they were alot bigger than they let on. Thus we have the head shots only , lol ! I have this week deleted someone who I waited 2 weeks for him to call. Meaning : 2 weeks ago I gave my number , he would be online talking to me , I would say you can call now. He would not call ....This happened 4 times ! Needless to say no more... Actually 2 were too gun shy to call in this month. Its such a turn off when they chicken out and it will never go anywhere until I hear their voice. I am looking for some confidance ( shy is okay ) someone who is famliar with women on some level, someone who has a sexy voice and sparks a continued interest in wanting to talk to him again. I can't decipher that in an email . If he cusses like a fish , its over ! lol
SpanksTheMonkey Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 I should add that I prefer larger men. Up to 250 lbs with that muscular thick frame. I should not have put * freaks * as a reference to overweight men because I actually prefer a man with meat . No worries Mary I understand I actually agree with your point in general. I don't know why larger people both men and women do that and from what I gather they do it quite a bit. I could see were it may cause some resentment and annoyance toward them in general. You spend allot of time getting to know some one only to find out you have been lied to and theres no chance of actual chemistry what a waist. I mean there are sites made just for larger people so why lie its not like you can hide it when the time comes to see each other lol
SpanksTheMonkey Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 I have this week deleted someone who I waited 2 weeks for him to call. Meaning : 2 weeks ago I gave my number , he would be online talking to me , I would say you can call now. He would not call ....This happened 4 times ! Needless to say no more... Actually 2 were too gun shy to call in this month. Its such a turn off when they chicken out and it will never go anywhere until I hear their voice. Wow not to frighten ya Mary3 but the 1st thing that came into my mind when I saw this was that either A. these men went actually men or B. That they were much muchhhhh younger then what they told you. That would be the 2 reasons I could think of not to even call or except a call you can hide your # now a days So security is a bit of a excuse IMO any ways hope I'm wrong yikes Internet can be such a scary place at times
Author Mary3 Posted February 19, 2008 Author Posted February 19, 2008 Yes they were deleted and that gives them no chance at all now... I'm 90% over thinking the internet is a place to find someone of quality. The other 10% keeps trying here and there....
sumdude Posted February 19, 2008 Posted February 19, 2008 Then there's the flip side...I put up the most recent pics because I'm in better shape now than 5 yrs ago and don't believe in false advertising... I'll reply to an ad with actual interest and ask questions. Sometimes I wonder if the women think "Nah, he can't be for real."
D-Lish Posted February 25, 2008 Posted February 25, 2008 sorry I didn't mean fat men were freaks... I should add that I prefer larger men. Up to 250 lbs with that muscular thick frame. I should not have put * freaks * as a reference to overweight men because I actually prefer a man with meat . I don't think you have to apologize to anyone for what you wrote. It didn't come as being offensive or politically incorrect. Some people are just looking for a reason to find offense in things. Anyway- yes, people misrepresent themselves all the time. I will now only meet up with someone I have talked to for a while and actually seen on web cam. If you are doing the internet dating thing- seeing them on cam is important.... there are no surprises that way- at least not in the looks department.
Legend Posted February 25, 2008 Posted February 25, 2008 if women weren't so judgmental on the guy having to have a model figure, this kind of **** wouldn't happen.
johan Posted February 25, 2008 Posted February 25, 2008 Having to live up to the distorted, media-created image of men is not fair. It's not even realistic.
burning 4 revenge Posted February 25, 2008 Posted February 25, 2008 There are some crazy and sick people out there.yeah, you'll never know what kind of damaged lunatics you might run in to
Pyro Posted February 25, 2008 Posted February 25, 2008 yeah, you'll never know what kind of damaged lunatics you might run in to I know what you mean. One day you just might run into some sick twisted pervert who does evil things to their pillow or jizzes in their onion dip.
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