Tomcat33 Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 What IO mean here is that she knows I'm not "cheating" on her with my wife because what I do with my wife is expected, it's part of my marriage. Now if I went out for drinks with another girl that is not my wife then she would consider that I'm "cheating" on her. What doesn't make sense here? Ops how did I miss this, that IS what you meant. Ok so you are not cheating on her with your W that's understood but you are cheating on your w so as far as the OW is concerned you need to put her mind at ease that she is the only one becuase she could very easily think you are doing this with someone else. She asks a lot of questions and gets jealous of other women because this is what is going on in her mind.
Author IM5150 Posted February 15, 2008 Author Posted February 15, 2008 Ops how did I miss this, that IS what you meant. Ok so you are not cheating on her with your W that's understood but you are cheating on your w so as far as the OW is concerned you need to put her mind at ease that she is the only one becuase she could very easily think you are doing this with someone else. She asks a lot of questions and gets jealous of other women because this is what is going on in her mind. I wouldn't mind telling her she's the only one, i really wouldn't, but I'm still insecure of our A. I really don't know how she feels about me and what her motives are. In my previous posts I mentioned that she was in denial over the whole thing and how she would never be a home wrecker blah, blah, blah. I think she's trying to view us as friends but I know that it's sooo hard for her because of how physical we have been. She just doesn't get it that she's already crossed the line. This is why some people think she's stringing me along. I won't rule that out but deep inside I think she does have feelings for me although she doesn't want to show it that much. What we have right now is very balanced, we are like friends, enjoy hanging out with each other and the physical stuff is a bonus. I can see how after the sex part out relationship might start become more serious and less cheery. My other concern eight now is the lack of sex for OW. If she's honest with me, she hasn't had sex for about 2 months now since she last saw her x BF, she finally broke up with him at that point but they probably had sex once more. She's probably hungry for it and I sure hope she gives into me before finding some single one night fling to to satisfy herself. I'd be crushed. I'm not sure I answered your question here, guess I just started rambling.
Impudent Oyster Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 Hey Im, why are you still married? You obviously don't love your wife, and you claim you want to prove how much you care for the OW, so why don't you prove it...and get a divorce.
Author IM5150 Posted February 15, 2008 Author Posted February 15, 2008 Hey Im, why are you still married? You obviously don't love your wife, and you claim you want to prove how much you care for the OW, so why don't you prove it...and get a divorce. Are you kidding me? I have a very unstable wild child as a OW. She's not relationship material. We've had the talk before about why she doesn't think she'll ever get married. I didn't want to burst her bubble by telling her that I agree but i can see why. This is temporary what I'm going through. When it's all over i go back to myself again and crawl under my hole. That is of course as long as the W doesn't find out.
Lookingforward Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 This is temporary what I'm going through. When it's all over i go back to myself again and crawl under my hole. That is of course as long as the W doesn't find out. Think you mean crawl back into the hole under the rock you crawled out from................UGH, you're pathetic
whichwayisup Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 Are you kidding me? I have a very unstable wild child as a OW. She's not relationship material. We've had the talk before about why she doesn't think she'll ever get married. I didn't want to burst her bubble by telling her that I agree but i can see why. This is temporary what I'm going through. When it's all over i go back to myself again and crawl under my hole. That is of course as long as the W doesn't find out. Sorry, but that's spoken like a true cakeeater. Your OW isn't fitting the typical OW (sorry, no offense to anyone, I just need to make a point to IM here) description - Putting her MM first, waiting for him, cherishing him, making him feel important and feeding his ego. Seems your OW has her mind, and isn't going to put you first. I hope your wife finds out because what you're doing to her is really really crappy. Cheating because you can, cheating with no intention of having a serious relationship - Yet, it seems you want the OW to be very into you, want you ... Sounds like an ego trip to me.
bentnotbroken Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 Wow, I am glad that I haven't had dinner yet. This guy is really something. His poor wife will find out and I hope she gets everything she deserves and then some.
Author IM5150 Posted February 15, 2008 Author Posted February 15, 2008 Think you mean crawl back into the hole under the rock you crawled out from................UGH, you're pathetic Thanks, you must have been hurt. I'm sorry.
Lookingforward Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 Thanks, you must have been hurt. I'm sorry. And you assume this because I can see very clearly what a self serving egotistical jerk you are ? I'm sorry for you...and BOTH the women in your miserable life. Sincerely hope you get busted out and lose both, it would only be what you deserve.
Author IM5150 Posted February 15, 2008 Author Posted February 15, 2008 Sorry, but that's spoken like a true cakeeater. Your OW isn't fitting the typical OW (sorry, no offense to anyone, I just need to make a point to IM here) description - Putting her MM first, waiting for him, cherishing him, making him feel important and feeding his ego. Seems your OW has her mind, and isn't going to put you first. I hope your wife finds out because what you're doing to her is really really crappy. Cheating because you can, cheating with no intention of having a serious relationship - Yet, it seems you want the OW to be very into you, want you ... Sounds like an ego trip to me. The problem with our A is that we don't open up to each other. I don't tell her how I'm feeling and she doesn't tell me. I have to figure it out for myself by how often she calls me and what little things she does to let me know that she thinks about me. One small example, when i go to see her dance, she knows that i like her hair in pigtails. I'll show up and she'll go to the dressing room and fix her hair for me. She doesn't have to do this but she does. Then she'll dance to a song that I like. She'll buy me drinks, she takes care of me. Does she tell me at the end of the night that she loves me and misses me? Nope. Do I tell her that? Nope. I think we are both hiding are feelings and it sucks. I don't want to spill it out afraid that she'll back off, maybe she feels the same. I do want to have a serious relationship with OW but i just don't feel she's marriage material.
Author IM5150 Posted February 15, 2008 Author Posted February 15, 2008 And you assume this because I can see very clearly what a self serving egotistical jerk you are ? I'm sorry for you...and BOTH the women in your miserable life. Sincerely hope you get busted out and lose both, it would only be what you deserve. NO, I assume this because I can feel you anger.
OpenBook Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 One small example, when i go to see her dance, she knows that i like her hair in pigtails. I'll show up and she'll go to the dressing room and fix her hair for me. She doesn't have to do this but she does. Then she'll dance to a song that I like. She'll buy me drinks, she takes care of me. Does she tell me at the end of the night that she loves me and misses me? Nope. Do I tell her that? Nope. I think we are both hiding are feelings and it sucks. I don't want to spill it out afraid that she'll back off, maybe she feels the same. I do want to have a serious relationship with OW but i just don't feel she's marriage material. You've got a crush on a stripper. Am I right?
Lookingforward Posted February 16, 2008 Posted February 16, 2008 You've got a crush on a stripper. Am I right? Oh sheesh, I must have missed that part........ Right on OB, can we say 'mid life crisis' ? Wonder if he's grown a ponytail and bought a black corvette yet ?
Lookingforward Posted February 16, 2008 Posted February 16, 2008 NO, I assume this because I can feel you anger. That's not anger honey, that's disgust
Author IM5150 Posted February 16, 2008 Author Posted February 16, 2008 You've got a crush on a stripper. Am I right? Not a stripper, works at a bikini bar. They dance on stage like strippers but don't get naked. They also don't do lap dances and the patrons cannot touch them when giving them money. I didn't know she did this when I met her. For the first 3 months she didn't know how to tell me so she told me she was a bartender. She couldn't hold it that long after I wanted to come to her bar. Eventually she gave in and told me where she REALLY worked. Now she asks me to come in often to see her. I gotta admit, it's a rush seeing all the boys lusting for her while she dances and when she's done she comes to me and doesn't pay attention to anyone else. All her co-workers have asked numerous times if I'm her boyfriend. She's also a model. I do feel that her "status" amplifies the "ego" boost that I feel when I'm with her. I have a hot chick, a baddass car, we have money to burn, I feel like a kid again.
OpenBook Posted February 16, 2008 Posted February 16, 2008 IM, if it's true that your OW is a stripper, then she is probably working you hard. If you've never done this before (gotten involved with a stripper), you may want to talk to your guy friends, do some research on it. These women can be very clever with their admirers. Especially with men who want it bad, and aren't getting fulfilled at home. Please be careful.
Author IM5150 Posted February 16, 2008 Author Posted February 16, 2008 Oh sheesh, I must have missed that part........ Right on OB, can we say 'mid life crisis' ? Wonder if he's grown a ponytail and bought a black corvette yet ? Nah, I don't believe in american sports cars. I drive a Porsche 911 Carerra No ponytail, I hate ponytails, reminds me of old software engineers for some reason.
OpenBook Posted February 16, 2008 Posted February 16, 2008 Not a stripper, works at a bikini bar. They dance on stage like strippers but don't get naked. They also don't do lap dances and the patrons cannot touch them when giving them money. I didn't know she did this when I met her. For the first 3 months she didn't know how to tell me so she told me she was a bartender. She couldn't hold it that long after I wanted to come to her bar. Eventually she gave in and told me where she REALLY worked. Now she asks me to come in often to see her. I gotta admit, it's a rush seeing all the boys lusting for her while she dances and when she's done she comes to me and doesn't pay attention to anyone else. All her co-workers have asked numerous times if I'm her boyfriend. She's also a model. I do feel that her "status" amplifies the "ego" boost that I feel when I'm with her. I have a hot chick, a baddass car, we have money to burn, I feel like a kid again. OK, gotcha, she's not a stripper.
Lookingforward Posted February 16, 2008 Posted February 16, 2008 OK, gotcha, she's not a stripper. I'd say technically she's not an OW either , just a playa
Author IM5150 Posted February 16, 2008 Author Posted February 16, 2008 IM, if it's true that your OW is a stripper, then she is probably working you hard. If you've never done this before (gotten involved with a stripper), you may want to talk to your guy friends, do some research on it. These women can be very clever with their admirers. Especially with men who want it bad, and aren't getting fulfilled at home. Please be careful. Thank you. She's not a "stripper". She was very hesitant about doing this. Doesn't like doing it actually but she's young, lives in California in an expensive part of town and has no real profession so it's easy money for her. She has grown comfortable with the place and is ok with guys just looking at her and not touching. Other guys give her alot more "$$$" than I do. I've been in there numerous times I've only only given her 20 bucks and that was sorta a joke and she threw it back at me with a cute grin. She has her regulars that go into see her. She tells me about each one of them and how they give her loads of money just for talking to them. Typically older business men. They hate it when i come in because she hangs with me the whole time and they are left by themselves staring at their drinks with no one to talk to. She doesn't care, she rather be with me.
Lookingforward Posted February 16, 2008 Posted February 16, 2008 I drive a Porsche 911 Carerra which remind ME of washed up ad executives
Author IM5150 Posted February 16, 2008 Author Posted February 16, 2008 which remind ME of washed up ad executives Heh, I'm no executive, far from it. Although I work in the corporate world, I hate every bit of it. My weekend job is a photographer. I shoot alot of swimwear campaigns and also shoot swim calendars for professional basketball and football teams. I've been published in magazines like Maxim and FHM. Travel to LA frequently. It could be that OW holds onto me for those reasons since she's a model, it's all good though.
OpenBook Posted February 16, 2008 Posted February 16, 2008 Heh, I'm no executive, far from it. Although I work in the corporate world, I hate every bit of it. My weekend job is a photographer. I shoot alot of swimwear campaigns and also shoot swim calendars for professional basketball and football teams. I've been published in magazines like Maxim and FHM. Travel to LA frequently. It could be that OW holds onto me for those reasons since she's a model, it's all good though. Why don't I believe you? Is this what you've been telling the OW so she'll become interested in you? In any case, I think she's playing it very smart. Best of luck. As far as your question in this thread title, I don't think you'll get many responses from other MM's here. It's mostly women. You may not find the validation, answers or whatever that you're looking for here from other guys. But I could be wrong, you may luck-out.
whichwayisup Posted February 16, 2008 Posted February 16, 2008 IM, you might not want to share such work details about your life. Never know who surfs the net and could stumble across this. Never say never...I mean, wouldn't it be awful if your wife saw this? Or maybe it wouldn't be so awful because everything would be out in the open. A decision can be made instead of you deciding for her.
Author IM5150 Posted February 16, 2008 Author Posted February 16, 2008 IM, you might not want to share such work details about your life. Never know who surfs the net and could stumble across this. Never say never...I mean, wouldn't it be awful if your wife saw this? Or maybe it wouldn't be so awful because everything would be out in the open. A decision can be made instead of you deciding for her. Your absolutely right, I gotta be careful. Thanks.
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