miali Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 This question is for everyone...do you think that moving away (to another state or country) is the best way to finally get over a MM?? do you think that after losing his O/W he'll finally understand his real feeling for her?? Have any O/W or O/M move away to finally end a relationship with a MM ?? did he ever get in touch with u after that?? how did you cope to be away from him?? I moved away to another country to end my relationship with my MM...it has been hard but i'm doing my best to not get in touch with him. I have good days and bad days. i miss him a lot but i keep strong.
directx Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 Sounds kind of extreme to me... You are actually giving him that much power over your life? think about it.
Author miali Posted February 15, 2008 Author Posted February 15, 2008 why are u saying that i'm giving power over my life?? i'm actually doing better than when i was in the same city than him. I'm finally undertanding that he's not right for me and i need to get over him!! there is no way for him to come and see me over here. I heard that he's sad and screaming at everyone a work. Good, he deserve a little suffering for a while!!
directx Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 If you moved to a new city/country, whatever, BECAUSE of him, thats quite extreme. And in my view, its a form of power of you. You couldn't deal with it any other way?
Author miali Posted February 15, 2008 Author Posted February 15, 2008 Read my story...i did a thread about it. nope i could not deal with it. We broke up so many times and then went back together that i just could not take it anymore. When i left my job (thanks to him) we 'finally' broke up and i went away for a month 1/2 ...there were no contact until the final week of my trip(he was so happy to hear from me) and then i called him the same day i came to my city. We agree to see each other for a drink and then guess what?? he showed up in my door the next day at 7:30 AM begging me to hug and kiss him!! we started the rollecoster again...we would see each other, then fight...then make up ...and it was like that until the day i came to this country where i live now
directx Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 oh. ok. Yeah, in your case, move away. Far away. Like Canada or Ice Land Because it sounds like nothing but trouble otherwise.
Author miali Posted February 15, 2008 Author Posted February 15, 2008 Yes i moved 1,ooo miles away by plane ----Because it sounds like nothing but trouble otherwise- can u explain it to me a little??
Author miali Posted February 15, 2008 Author Posted February 15, 2008 Thid explain a little about affair with marry man soo sad to read ur story it is pretty much like mine with marry man...he said i was his first affair...we only fool around for six months...he said he felt guilty and confused and that why he won't have sex with me. Then it became a PA I could never believe anything he said...about that i was his first... being guilty and confused then became very jelous of him...thinking that he was fooling around...and that was my down fall...we started fighting a lot after that. It really became a nightmare!! We broke up and came back many time. I felt deeply in love with him but he never told me his feeling so i was confused about his feeling and that provoke me to ight with him a lot. He was always there for me and he always honest about that he'll never leave his wife (wife family too involve in his business) i ran away to another country to be away from him. do u think that he miss me?? I sent @mail last week to let him know someone would call him for reference...he said that he was happy to hear that i'm about to get a job here...to make sure i give that person his direct line and that he wish me happiness and that good thing going to come to me [COLOR=#000000][/COLOR]
whichwayisup Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 He may miss you, and care about you, but not enough to change his life, give everything up for you. You move, do it for yourself, not because you want MM to chase you and follow you...Chances are really slim that he's going to end his marriage, give up his life and run to you. Sorry...
Ronni_W Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 ...do you think that moving away (to another state or country) is the best way to finally get over a MM?? do you think that after losing his O/W he'll finally understand his real feeling for her?? I think the "best" way to get over any person or circumstance is whatever works for the individual. Doing something with the hope that it'll "help" someone else understand their real feelings, or "force" them to face a specific circumstance? -- No, I don't think that'll work. (Whether it's an affair or an addiction, they need to want to understand or to recover for themselves.)
Impudent Oyster Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 Sounds kind of extreme to me... You are actually giving him that much power over your life? think about it. Totally agree with this. Why would you rearrange your life and pick up and move to another country just to get over someone who is unavailable to you? Sounds VERY extreme to me. As far as I know, there are MM all over the world.
twice_shy Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 This question is for everyone...do you think that moving away (to another state or country) is the best way to finally get over a MM?? No. Best way to get over a MM is to realize that he is a cheating, lying piece of crap anyway and come to the realization, "why the hell would I want a pr!ck like that?" So the question becomes, why does someone really want a pr!ck like that? I know, its love, right?
nadiaj2727 Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 This question is for everyone...do you think that moving away (to another state or country) is the best way to finally get over a MM?? do you think that after losing his O/W he'll finally understand his real feeling for her?? Have any O/W or O/M move away to finally end a relationship with a MM ?? did he ever get in touch with u after that?? how did you cope to be away from him?? I moved away to another country to end my relationship with my MM...it has been hard but i'm doing my best to not get in touch with him. I have good days and bad days. i miss him a lot but i keep strong. I would say don't move away with the hope that he'll miss you and come find you. Move away if you think it will be good for you. Just make plans for your life based on yourself, not him. Ask yourself: with MM out of the picture, what do you want out of life? Who do you want to be? Make a plan for yourself, that makes you happy, and you might find that soon you don't care at all what MM's thinking or doing. You will be happy on your own, without him. Good luck.
Author miali Posted February 18, 2008 Author Posted February 18, 2008 Thanks evryone for your feedback...please keep answering my questions. I want to hear more. ah...i move away to start my life far saway from MM i'm not hopping that he follow me. I'm wishing everyday that he stay away from me and that he won't come to see me here and get me back to square one
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