gman0hsev Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 Well my girlfriend just broke up with me(awesome timing on her half I know) and asked if we could remain friends. I told her yes:p(i know not a good idea). Well the thing thats bothering me is that I don't care....... at all. I mean I was a bit sad at first but no where near what I thought I would be(and by looking at some posts should) I mean it only lasted like an hour(the sadness) and then after i was back to my old self. So I guess what I'm asking is that natural? Cause I really thought I could have a future with that girl and the only thing that is really bothering me is my complete and total apathy. I mean will it get worse? Will I wake up tmw morning and feel completely like ****?
becauseofyou Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 How strong were your feelings for this girl? Are/were you in love with her? Perhaps you had grown apart and part of you knew this was coming. Or perhaps you are in shock at the moment and haven't taken it in yet? Maybe it will hit you when you do something you used to do with her and realise you are doing it alone. I'm really not sure, I've never felt nothing after a breakup so it's hard for me to say.
Author gman0hsev Posted February 15, 2008 Author Posted February 15, 2008 They were pretty strong i think I was in love with her but now I'm not too sure..... I really thought we could have had a future together but it wasn't the case...... And I don't think I'm in denial because she called me earlier and we had a casual friendly conversation with no awkwardness(atleast on my half anyway). I look at the stuff she left behind and i just feel...... normal and wee bit giddy. It's odd lol the idea that I don't care is bothering me more than the actual break up.
e.clipse Posted February 16, 2008 Posted February 16, 2008 BOY gave you some pretty good reasons already, i think. to reiterate, i suggest that you current apathy is due to perhaps one of these three things: 1.) your feelings towards her and your relationship were not deeply invested, 2.) you started to detach yourself from her and the relationship before the breakup, thereby lessening the grieving time, or 3.) you are in a state of denial, and the reality of what has happened will hit you later. you see, typically, the deeper you fall for someone, the more difficult it is to get over them. this can mean that you have been with the person for an extended period of time, but not necessarily. thus, if you deeply "invest" your feelings into her and your relationship, you will find that it is much harder for them to depreciate. if, however, you didn't invest much, didn't know her for a very long time, or already had the feeling that things were going awry for time before, then it's normal for you to not be as phased over the breakup. then again, if you did invest plentifully and weren't really expecting the breakup, then i don't think it's all that normal for you to be so indifferent. the loss of someone you cared deeply for in junction with the shock of their departure is more than enough to get an emotional reaction out of anyone, i think. it may be that you are going to start experiencing your real feelings as some time passes.
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