taylor3205 Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 (edited) I am so sick n tired of feeelin the way I do. No matter what I do or where I go or who Im with, its always my ex my ex my ex I think about and im down about. Ive been out for something to eat and a few drinks with a friend and all I can think of is my ex, and what his doin and wishin it was him i was with. Its driving me mad, its like a ton weights hanging off my heart 24/7. Ive got no motivation for anything anymore. Ive got prospects, other people show an interest but it feels like i have NOTHING. Theres just nothing left, everythings gone. Im not hell bent suicidal but the thought has been seriosuly crossing my mind lately, im on anti depressants and everything. I sound messed up dont I?? I am. Its been 3 months now, things are only getting worse!! Edited February 15, 2008 by taylor3205
saddad1 Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 You need to concentrate on yourself and what you want out of life for YOU (pretend for example that your ex never existed, you had never met - what would you have wanted for your life?). This might be very hard atm but its what you have to do. Why do you believe that "everything is gone"? Although it often feels like that after a break-up in reality the only thing that is gone from your life is the person that left. You still have a future only it won't be the future that you had planned in your head. You are still pining atm, but that will pass I promise. Keep going out with your friends and try to realise that you are a worthwhile person by yourself and that you dont need anyone to make you complete. Are you still in contact with your ex? If so try NC. You need to be strong for yourself and then you will be able to move on.
Lyssa Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 Taylor, It's hard - it really is! Reading your thread reminds me of how I felt after my previous BF broke up with me. Although it didn't cross my mind to commit suicide, it did make me feel very very depressed. I got over it - eventually - after talking to my mother and friends. Went NC with him but we reconnected as friends much later after that. It was hard but I learned to let go of him completely by being a friend to him. Not something that I am suggesting you do but just telling you what I had experienced. It helps to talk about it, if you can't do it with anyone - you can always do it the LS style!
Author taylor3205 Posted February 15, 2008 Author Posted February 15, 2008 (edited) You need to concentrate on yourself and what you want out of life for YOU (pretend for example that your ex never existed, you had never met - what would you have wanted for your life?). This might be very hard atm but its what you have to do. Why do you believe that "everything is gone"? Although it often feels like that after a break-up in reality the only thing that is gone from your life is the person that left. You still have a future only it won't be the future that you had planned in your head. You are still pining atm, but that will pass I promise. Keep going out with your friends and try to realise that you are a worthwhile person by yourself and that you dont need anyone to make you complete. Are you still in contact with your ex? If so try NC. You need to be strong for yourself and then you will be able to move on. Thanks for the replies. Yes I am still in contact with him. I guess I feel like everything is gone because I didnt have much of a life outside of our relationship. I worked with him with his business, spent all my spare time with him, in short my life revolved around him and has done so for the past 10 years. He is now with someone else. Although he still wants to remain friends and said we can meet up etc. I see this as hope that something may well develop. We broke up because of a alcohol induced argument/fight. He said he wishes he could turn the clocks back and so do I. He gets upset but says theres no going back. I havent let go. Im still clinging on to the hope that he may turn round and say he wants to give things another go. I know he misses me and he says he still loves me but that its just not the same anymore. I know I need to go complete NC and try and heal. He knows atm I would take him back in a heartbeat. If he didnt know this and didnt hear from me for a while then he may start to miss me/us. I need to go NC but the longest Ive gone so far is 2 days. I dont phone him often anymore, but I text him. Ive tried to date people (1 person), but I find myself just thinking of him all the time. Its like no one else compares and never will. He is in a relationship right now, but by his own admission he is just 'trying' to make himself feel better and move on. I wish I didnt know his number off by heart!! Edited February 15, 2008 by taylor3205
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