pandagirl Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 I keep on experiencing the same scenario: guy likes me, i am not sure about him, i warm up to him, we make out, guy disappears. WHY! It's so annoying. No to mention hurtful!
latefragment Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 join the club, same deal with me. it takes me a while to warm up to the guy, then when i warm up to him, he's gone. it has been happening to me for a while now. no advice... just glad to hear i'm not alone on this one. also, i have read your other posts previously, and i totally get where you're coming from.
Lyssa Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 Maybe you girls are better off without those guys anyway. They could be the wrong guys!
Ocean-Blue Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 I keep on experiencing the same scenario: guy likes me, i am not sure about him, i warm up to him, we make out, guy disappears. WHY! It's so annoying. No to mention hurtful! Some of them seem to really like the thrill of the chase. Once that hunger been satiated, some either settle down and embrace the inevitable relationship while others go out and seek another thrill. This is similiar to women in relationships who complain that their SOs are no longer the same, that they don't romance them like they once did (out goes Mr. Charming and in comes Mr. Complacent).
Dynamo Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 While I certainly agree there are guys out there who are only in it for the chase or to make out with you/get you in bed before being done with you.. But I also have to defend my fellow guys. A lot of times when Women begin to 'warm up' to a guy as you stated, they become needy or act like it's a full blown relationship, even when the guy clearly isn't ready for that yet. It may just be a subconscious thing that they do, but I've seen it happen time and time again. Guys want girls to warm up to them, but that doesn't mean acting all needy and obsessive the very next day! I suppose when guys want a girl to warm up to them, they want it GRADUALLY. not just wham bam, I'm your girlfriend! type of setup.
Lizzie60 Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 Hum... if this happens once of twice I wouldn't worry about it.. some guys are like that... BUT if it happens most of the time, if it seems to be a pattern.. THEN it's probably YOU... not them. If I were you I would check a few things... do I come out as being needy or clingy.. do I talk too much.. do I talk about 'exes' too much... do I talk about 'personal' stuff on the first date... do I have bad breath... do I have strong body odours... Not to sound rude or anything... but we can't be too quick to say that guys like that are all jerks..
DanielMadr Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 What Does It Mean.....'i'm Not Sure About Him'????
Blue Eyed Brain Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 Are you using the right breath mint?
Author pandagirl Posted February 16, 2008 Author Posted February 16, 2008 yes, i have good breath! i have to say, i am also guilty of losing interest in guys all the sudden. it's not something i plan to do though. it's almost like... once it's there and it's real, i get freaked out and don't know what to do. maybe that's what some guys think, too?
directx Posted February 16, 2008 Posted February 16, 2008 How long do you know these guys before you make out?
Author pandagirl Posted February 16, 2008 Author Posted February 16, 2008 One I had known for 1.5 years, plus I avoided a kiss from him once, because I thought it was too soon. Then, after we made out, I never heard from him again. That one hurt, becuase I'd known him for awhile. Another guy, we kissed on the second date. Didn't hear from him again either, but didn't take it too personally. meh.
directx Posted February 16, 2008 Posted February 16, 2008 I think its just coincidence. Don't worry. You'll find someone
Lovelybird Posted February 16, 2008 Posted February 16, 2008 If most of women make out with a guy, she instinctly wants commitment from him, but on early stage he cannot give that commitment, maybe that's where the problem is. so it is better to build up all emotional spiritual bonds and strong friendship before make out. Love needs patience, the more patient it is, the more sweet it gets. make man wait for you, the one left waiting you patiently is the one really love you as a whole
directx Posted February 16, 2008 Posted February 16, 2008 If most of women make out with a guy, she instinctly wants commitment from him, but on early stage he cannot give that commitment, maybe that's where the problem is. so it is better to build up all emotional spiritual bonds and strong friendship before make out. Love needs patience, the more patient it is, the more sweet it gets. make man wait for you, the one left waiting you patiently is the one really love you as a whole Yes. That is what I was getting at when I asked how long. You make a good point Lovebird
allina Posted February 16, 2008 Posted February 16, 2008 It doesn't happen to me but I've seen it happen a lot. I don't think that it's that the guy just wants the chase, I think that it happens because when the woman is still unsure about a guy she acts like herself and has her own interests which is attractive. Once women fall for a guy they often lose themselves and the traits that attracted the guy in the first place. They get too absorbed in the guy and lose him because they drop the things that made them desirable.
HoustonScrewed Posted February 16, 2008 Posted February 16, 2008 Girls also want what they can't have, it is just typical human nature.
child_of_isis Posted February 16, 2008 Posted February 16, 2008 It is not men, per se, but the ego in general. The ego is all about wanting, not having. The more it "gets", the more it wants. It is like a black hole that gets bigger the more you try to fill it up.
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