LOTSOFBOXES Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 Well, I took a hell of a lot of courage, my heart was beating like mad...I said we were too different and that im not happy. Everything was very friendly, no shouting, everything is very bizarre now. I dont think the shock has hit me yet, im still feeling ok. I know its going to hit soon though Its gonna be hard :-(
dfreeman Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 At least you picked a day that won't have any significance on the calendar or anything retarded like that!
tinktt Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 I was in your shoes not even two weeks ago. I still cannot breathe and the pit in my stomach hasn't yet gone away. If in your heart you know you did the right thing, then you will be okay. The addiction to him or her is the hardest part. Not getting the phone calls or the excitement of being with them and the realization that your life and his/hers is not intercepting any more. Mine was a shock, your sounds like it was the culmination of many weeks or months of unhappiness. Share your story alot, talk to everyone, feel your pain, indulge yourself in good things, value you, and remember that if it was meant to be, you would not have ended it. Visit a therapist. Do anything but stick to your guns if you want it to be over. Make a list of all the negatives and keep it with you at all times. Do not idealize him/her. Most importantly, respect yourself and your decision. And remember that you are not alone. There will be someone eventually with whom you will be happy and secure and get that wonderful feeling again. It may take a while but never, ever give up that hope. It is better to be alone than in poor company.
SeraBella Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 At least you picked a day that won't have any significance on the calendar or anything retarded like that! I was thinking the same thing...perfect day to do it.
Miyamoto Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 Hey, but now she's got the ego boost of kicking this dude to the curb on the worst day possible. Think of his pain! Think of it, wring your hands with a coy smile on your face and indulge the evil within....
ninjaturtles Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 If you are going to regret it...then why did you end it? Did you try to sort things out?
Belkin Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 Awww... Poor you... It must have been a terrible decision to make! Well done for doing it on vday btw, did you give her/him chocolates with that?
sandflea Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 My ex did it on Vday. I guess she just couldn't "go through with it". Her words, not mine. Generally speaking - it almost always happens on a major event - Thanksgiving, Xmas, NewYear - Birthday. Never fails. To OP. Welcome to your new life. Make sure the next one is right.. SF
sandflea Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 I thought you broke up with your EX? I was referring to my first wife. She left me on 2/14/2005. But, yes - I just called off an engagement. SF
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