luvmy2ns Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 I"m living proof this isn't always the case. Because I in fact don't "look". I don't even use internet dating because I can't afford to. I have little time for going with friends, and when I do it's just to hang with them, not look for guys. And guys don't approach me (normal ones anyway) much at all. I'm not ugly, but if you put me in a public place full of other singles, I look plain next to many of the much younger, smaller, cuter women. Who is going to notice me while those girls are blocking their view? And my life is very full. Work, nursing school, and a small business on the side (which ALL consist of pretty much nothing but women); I'm just about never in a situation where I'll meet men, and don't have time to put myself in one! It doesn't help when all your friends are married, because all of THEIR friends are married, too --- no one to set me up with. Back in college I got upset once because I heard a friend tell another friend as I sat right there, how she wanted to set her up with this guy she knew. I was offended...no one ever says, "I like you, I should totally set you up with sew and sew"....not that being "set up" is usually a success, anyway. Yeah, set ups don't usually work out. The whole thing is so pre-planned you feel self conscious from the get go. Your life sound soooo busy. You say you look plain. Do you do makeup? I know lots of gals don't like to and some think it's archaic to have to paint up your face, but if I put a pic of my eyes up here with no makeup on them, you'd hardly see my eyelashes at all. They're very long, but not so dark that you can see them without mascara. And not that looks are everything, but that is what catches the eye first after all, and you go from there. You can always weed out the duds after you've sized 'em up.
Author LoveLace Posted February 14, 2008 Author Posted February 14, 2008 Yes I wear make-up. Eye shadow, eye liner, mascara, blush and all...and I'm anal about my hair...but I have pretty neutral skin so I'm careful not to over-do make-up. I easily look whore-ish if I do...unless it's lipstick, I'm pretty much ok with any color there. Even with all that, I've had people tell me I don't look like I'm wearing make-up...not sure if that's a compliment or not. I have long lashes too but still wear mascara. Don't get me wrong I've had guys say I"m "cute" millions of times, but the "beautiful" girl is the one that gets their efforts, before me. "Cute" just doesn't seem to be what mesmorizes a guy...cuz lots of people are just "okay" or "cute"...
CD111 Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 I wouldn't say I hate today, but I do think the commercialized aspect and pressure put on people in relationships, especially guys is pretty ridiculous. It's like the one year excuse to actually show your love and affection for a person. I think it's sad. Especially all those women that gush about what their guy is for them. They try to out do each other in the office by what their SO did for them, yet the rest of the year they don't say a peep about anything their husband/bf did. Heart shaped pancakes could be made any time of year and how much cooler would it be if your SO just did it out of the blue without any expectations too. Same goes with buying an occasional gift. I personally would much rather be surprised.
Author LoveLace Posted February 15, 2008 Author Posted February 15, 2008 I'm with you CD, things we expect on Valentines day are things we should expect all year round...anything from a hug and kiss to a small gift on occasion. You would think these things meant more when they happened on the other 364 days that are NOT designated for this purpose. It's like, if I had a BF and he got me something on V-day, or only on holidays for that matter, it would seem his reasons were more out of obligation, than out of actual desire to do something nice for you. And what if your a guy with little money and a girlfriend who expects a gift for valentines day? You'd feel crappy even if she was understanding about it...I wonder how many break-ups actually happen on Valentines Day over petty disappointments? The guy I've been involved with isn't calling, or going to call, but I could care less. If he called tomorrow or next week, it would mean just as much as if it were today!! (confused? sorry)
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