LoveLace Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 Ok so ya can't really "hate" a measly day, but you can hate that soo many other people have a reason to celebrate and you don't. Ladies at work today were flaunting what their boyfriends and husbands did for them...one guy made heart-shaped pancakes for her breakfast...a woman was on the phone thanking her husband for the flowers she had found that morning...ugh! Puke! I got one rose once...from my 1st love when I was 16 years-old...feels and sounds terrible when your 31. It's THE day designated for thinking of the one you love...and it's the day to remind me no one is thinking of me, as if every other day isn't hard enough. I guess that's why it's hard to imagine or appreciate what these women are getting from their honies. I mean really, I couldn't begin to know what it's like to get a nice gift from a guy. How pathetic. Anyone with me?
sb129 Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 Yes, I am, and I am in a R! My fiance rants on that he doesn't need to be told what day to declare his love for me, he tells me he loves me EVERY day.... which is true. And he is a sweetie. I am not that bothered really- V day has never been a big deal to me.
peace_pipe Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 Ok so ya can't really "hate" a measly day, but you can hate that soo many other people have a reason to celebrate and you don't. Ladies at work today were flaunting what their boyfriends and husbands did for them...one guy made heart-shaped pancakes for her breakfast...a woman was on the phone thanking her husband for the flowers she had found that morning...ugh! Puke! I got one rose once...from my 1st love when I was 16 years-old...feels and sounds terrible when your 31. It's THE day designated for thinking of the one you love...and it's the day to remind me no one is thinking of me, as if every other day isn't hard enough. I guess that's why it's hard to imagine or appreciate what these women are getting from their honies. I mean really, I couldn't begin to know what it's like to get a nice gift from a guy. How pathetic. Anyone with me? I am with ya. I work with mostly women, one of which I used to date and told her off last night. I think it is pathetic even when i have a girlfriend. I just split with mine last night and I have no gifts to return. If it makes you feel better, there is a really attractive older woman here who had a similar discussion with me today!!
Krytie TV Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 Nah, I'm pretty complacent about it. I just had a realization yesterday that this is my first Valentine's day alone since 2000. It's really kinda nice. No pressures or lttle games to play. Ahh... complaceny.
EYECANDY000 Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 I am with ya! standing right next to you!! Valentines day has always been an commercial holiday for me, never put any thought into it. Im glad no one at my job is flashing their oober flowers. Im sure my mommy will have my Valentines gift for me and thats what makes my day!
Dynamo Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 Don't sweat it - I too was alone and proud on Valentine's Day, but I'm not angry. It's purely a commercialized holiday, it really is a gimmick.
Author LoveLace Posted February 14, 2008 Author Posted February 14, 2008 I am with ya. I work with mostly women, one of which I used to date and told her off last night. I think it is pathetic even when i have a girlfriend. I just split with mine last night and I have no gifts to return. If it makes you feel better, there is a really attractive older woman here who had a similar discussion with me today!! ...actually does make me feel a little better! Can't say I've never made a huge deal out of this day before, either (then again I haven't had a reason to in the 1st place)...I agree it's all over-rated. I would feel that way even if I did have someone, and I'd be content with a hug and kiss or "happy valentines day"...can't say I'd expect, or want to spend $ on, anything extravagant...that's what XMAS and birthdays are for. I knew I could count on loveshack not to feel alone!
luvmy2ns Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 What I find worse is to have a man who doesn't give a damn whether it's your birthday, V day, or anniversary. I found it was better to have NO man than have one that was unattentive. So if you don't currently have an SO, count yourself luckier than those who have one who didn't make any effort on a special day!
AriaIncognito Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 For some reason it's not really bothering me this year, and I definitely have reason to be bothered because 2 years ago the day after v-day was my first date with the now ex (well ex since what, may 2007). This day, in general, is annoying because all it really does, is cause unnecessary stress on those in relationships and those not in them. For those in them, there's the stress of making the day "special". For those not in them, there's the stress of "why don't I have someone to spend this "special" day with. Every day should be special, not just February 14.
EYECANDY000 Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 Do you guys have an holiday called SWEETEST DAY? In the midwest there is an holiday which is similar to Valentines day and it is called Sweetest Day. The holiday is in October, I believe the 19...
Author LoveLace Posted February 14, 2008 Author Posted February 14, 2008 What I find worse is to have a man who doesn't give a damn whether it's your birthday, V day, or anniversary. I found it was better to have NO man than have one that was unattentive. So if you don't currently have an SO, count yourself luckier than those who have one who didn't make any effort on a special day! I don't have an SO but I do have a guy who doesn't give a damn! Well don't "have" him, obviously, but you get it...I think he's purposely hiding until this day is long over... What he doesn't know is that I don't give a sh*t!
Author LoveLace Posted February 14, 2008 Author Posted February 14, 2008 [ This day, in general, is annoying because all it really does, is cause unnecessary stress on those in relationships and those not in them. Totally!!!
luvmy2ns Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 I don't have an SO but I do have a guy who doesn't give a damn! Well don't "have" him, obviously, but you get it...I think he's purposely hiding until this day is long over... What he doesn't know is that I don't give a sh*t! Oh, hon, yes you do or you wouldn't be making a mad face. You have a guy but not a "significant other?" Are you married, or just dating? Not to pry, but if he's already neglecting things at this point... Just don't settle. Life is too short! I had one too many of those kinds of guys, but I think I finally found a keeper!!!
xpaperxcutx Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 Omg I hate this day. I never gave much thought to it, but today was just horrible. Knowing that you like someone but not knowing how the other person feels sucks.
Author LoveLace Posted February 14, 2008 Author Posted February 14, 2008 Omg I hate this day. I never gave much thought to it, but today was just horrible. Knowing that you like someone but not knowing how the other person feels sucks. Sure does. luvmy2n, I have what ya call Friends with Benefits, pretty much. We met over 2 years ago. But not 2 years of consistent contact. Anyway it used to be strictly a sexual thing but lately it's become a little more, which was his cue to bolt, but it never fails that he will call eventually..it could be days, weeks, months or more, he's used all combinations of hiding away. But this time is possibly for good, since I outwardly admitted to deeper feelings.
Ariadne Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 Ok so ya can't really "hate" a measly day, but you can hate that soo many other people have a reason to celebrate and you don't. Ladies at work today were flaunting what their boyfriends and husbands did for them... Probably most of those relationships suck anyway and the guys are obligated to do those things. It's very rare for people to be with their soulmates, most are crap and will break up in a matter of time, or stuck and be miserable.
luvmy2ns Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 Sure does. luvmy2n, I have what ya call Friends with Benefits, pretty much. We met over 2 years ago. But not 2 years of consistent contact. Anyway it used to be strictly a sexual thing but lately it's become a little more, which was his cue to bolt, but it never fails that he will call eventually..it could be days, weeks, months or more, he's used all combinations of hiding away. But this time is possibly for good, since I outwardly admitted to deeper feelings. I had a situation like that a few years back, but in the reverse. I'm sorry for how you're feeling. Could be he's just a commitment phobe. Me and my FWB guy were just not a good match anywhere but in the sack, but he refused to see that. I should never have gone down that road with him, but hindsight is 20/20.
luvmy2ns Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 Probably most of those relationships suck anyway and the guys are obligated to do those things. It's very rare for people to be with their soulmates, most are crap and will break up in a matter of time, or stuck and be miserable. Wow. What a dismal forecast for the entirety of LS.
Ariadne Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 Wow. What a dismal forecast for the entirety of LS. Well, I'd say Touche is with a true soulmate. It can happen, just rare.
Author LoveLace Posted February 14, 2008 Author Posted February 14, 2008 I had a situation like that a few years back, but in the reverse. I'm sorry for how you're feeling. Could be he's just a commitment phobe. Me and my FWB guy were just not a good match anywhere but in the sack, but he refused to see that. I should never have gone down that road with him, but hindsight is 20/20. Well I guess that's how he probably feels about me, then... Adrne is right...rare...
luvmy2ns Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 Well, I'd say Touche is with a true soulmate. It can happen, just rare. I think it is rare because we tend to settle. Don't you think? I did too many times. I spent a good while this last time dating lots of guys and choosing none of them until I started dating my current man. He just won me over like you wouldn't believe, and he is still wonderful in my eyes.
Ariadne Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 I think it is rare because we tend to settle. Don't you think? I did too many times. I spent a good while this last time dating lots of guys and choosing none of them until I started dating my current man. He just won me over like you wouldn't believe, and he is still wonderful in my eyes. I don't think it's because people just settle. It's mainly because most don't know what love is. They get infatuated and get married. People that have nothing to do with each other marry. Then they can't look eye to eye. There is no communion.
Author LoveLace Posted February 14, 2008 Author Posted February 14, 2008 I think it is rare because we tend to settle. Don't you think? I did too many times. I spent a good while this last time dating lots of guys and choosing none of them until I started dating my current man. He just won me over like you wouldn't believe, and he is still wonderful in my eyes. Even if I wanted to settle, none of them make themselves a choice for me to begin with...
luvmy2ns Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 Even if I wanted to settle, none of them make themselves a choice for me to begin with... Every time I've "looked" I haven't found the right guy. It was when I quit looking and was just going out with whoever and going out mostly with my girlfriends that he came along. When you least expect it, it'll happen.
Author LoveLace Posted February 14, 2008 Author Posted February 14, 2008 Every time I've "looked" I haven't found the right guy. It was when I quit looking and was just going out with whoever and going out mostly with my girlfriends that he came along. When you least expect it, it'll happen. I"m living proof this isn't always the case. Because I in fact don't "look". I don't even use internet dating because I can't afford to. I have little time for going with friends, and when I do it's just to hang with them, not look for guys. And guys don't approach me (normal ones anyway) much at all. I'm not ugly, but if you put me in a public place full of other singles, I look plain next to many of the much younger, smaller, cuter women. Who is going to notice me while those girls are blocking their view? And my life is very full. Work, nursing school, and a small business on the side (which ALL consist of pretty much nothing but women); I'm just about never in a situation where I'll meet men, and don't have time to put myself in one! It doesn't help when all your friends are married, because all of THEIR friends are married, too --- no one to set me up with. Back in college I got upset once because I heard a friend tell another friend as I sat right there, how she wanted to set her up with this guy she knew. I was offended...no one ever says, "I like you, I should totally set you up with sew and sew"....not that being "set up" is usually a success, anyway.
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