lovesparis Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 (edited) i've now had 2 dates with the new guy. he's not my ex (not that anyone will measure up) but i'm trying to look past that. i'm looking for something casual, yet committed-- meaning i don't want to be just one of a few he's dating, but i don't want to be celebrating our first phone call and stuff. at least not right now. but i'm ok with becoming a couple (this is great b/c a few months ago i couldn't imagine trying to date again) he's highly intelligent, charming, witty, and very good looking. he's shy and ackward at the right times, and he's bold and take charge at the right times. he's also 4 years younger than i am, and although it's not much, it can be a big difference. he's ambitious but lacks motivation. he's smitten with me, which kind of scares me. he's doing what i've seen done a million times; which is ignore the bad things, or think they are endearing until.. *poof* one day he wakes up and feels he's been lied to b/c i'm not who he's made me out to be. i feel that we have a LOT of things in common, but that the differences between us... i don't think they will hold up during a LTR. i'm anal, he pays zero attn to detail. i'm bluntly honest, he'll feign happiness to avoid hurting someone. i want someone i can open up to, and share the icky things inside me, he uses sarcasm to keep people at a distance. actually, he's much like me, BEFORE my last R. i'm going to do my best to enjoy this, because i really do like him. and i don't want to mess it up.... at the same time, i feel like i'll just end up rebounding him. i still have very deep feelings for my ex. a couple weeks ago, i realized that after each of my R's i had rebounded with someone, and i've never had a problem "getting over" an ex until now. so maybe that was the problem? so i forced myself to be open to the idea of dating. i would talk to anyone who talked to me, i would go on any date that was asked. now i find someone that i like, i feel very secure with him physically. very comforatable next to him, our conversations flow well. but i can't help but see that in 6mo-a year we're going to be trying to change each other. what do i do? Edited February 14, 2008 by lovesparis spelling
Lyssa Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 i'm going to do my best to enjoy this, because i really do like him. and i don't want to mess it up.... at the same time, i feel like i'll just end up rebounding him. i still have very deep feelings for my ex. Hi there LP, When was the last time you dated before you met this guy? Do you think you need more time by yourself?
Author lovesparis Posted February 15, 2008 Author Posted February 15, 2008 i had 3 dates in oct. prior to that my ex and i broke up in early aug. (we were tog just under 6 mo)
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