allina Posted February 23, 2008 Posted February 23, 2008 I probably shouldn't be saying this but I think it's sort of lame how now a days you can't even beat the sh*t out of the guy who f*cked your wife. I'm a woman but if I was in your situation there would probably be violence. I'm glad you're trying to take care of yourself as well as possible right now. Good luck, I hope you have happiness in your life again.
Zolie Posted February 23, 2008 Posted February 23, 2008 I'm seeing my doctor tomorrow. I'll be fine till then. They put me on Paxil and Klonopin. It's such a low dose though, I really don't think it's contributing to much of anything. AR, I am here to tell you first hand that Paxil does indeed start to cause rage. It also causes apathy. Sounds odd, since those two feelings are 180 degrees opposite. But, I was on Paxil for 3 years, and I experienced both of those feelings. Strongly. At first, the Paxil was a Godsend, because it did was it supposed to do - it alleviated my depression. It literally saved my life. But, after a year of being on the Paxil, I noticed I was completely apathetic about pretty much everything, feeling nothing, except misplaced anger. I also noticed a severe increase in my appetite and a weight gain. So, I abruptly stopped taking the Paxil. That's when the real rage started. So I went back on the Paxil. And then back off again. (btw, this was before they discovered that withdrawal from Paxil caused these extreme feelings in some patients, and that the withdrawal occurred DAILY once the pill wore off at the end of 24 hour period. So, they created Paxil CR, which stands for Controlled Release, meaning the drug was slowly released into the body throughout the day, rather than all at once at the beginning of the day. I presume you are on the CR version, but you still have to be sure to take the pill at the exact same time every day.) Even with the CR version, abrupt cessation of the drug is not a good thing for most patients. Even missing the drug for one day was bad for me. So, when I kept trying to wean myself, I would have such bad reactions I would have to go back. Point of my telling you my story, is that I totally understand your apathetic states, where you feel detached, as well as your rage states. You would probably still have those without being on the Paxil, but having experienced it first hand, I am convinced the Paxil exacerbated those feelings for me, and is probably doing the same for you. Tell your doctors - IMMEDIATELY - and ask for another type of anti-dep. Whatever you do, just don't try to wean yourself cold turkey. BTW, what exactly did your wife and her new b/f do to you? Did they do more than just carry on an affair? Is it only infidelity that has you so angry? Or did they also do other things to harm you? I ask, because if it was only infidelity, there are ways to view that, which will help you accept it more and dissipate the anger.
twice_shy Posted February 25, 2008 Posted February 25, 2008 I probably shouldn't be saying this but I think it's sort of lame how now a days you can't even beat the sh*t out of the guy who f*cked your wife. I'm a woman but if I was in your situation there would probably be violence. What about her? Maybe he should get Big Bertha to put the smackdown on his ex?
BetrayedMM Posted February 27, 2008 Posted February 27, 2008 Years ago, when I caught my disgusting mess of a 'wife' in an affair, I had a scrip for paxil, but I guess I only took it for about a month or so. I never noticed any effects, but I sure noticed side effects! So, I stopped taking it. I prefer my digestive processes being 'regular', thank you. Not to mention the sexual side effects! Pryopism isn't as much fun as you might think. It was just on the news a couple days ago that 'they' now think some antidepressants do no more than a placebo for depression. Combine that with the hyper rage, and now I'm really seriously wondering if they do any good at all!
Darth Vader Posted February 27, 2008 Posted February 27, 2008 Those drugs must all be a scam, to convice people to spend their money!
mopar crazy Posted February 29, 2008 Posted February 29, 2008 Those drugs must all be a scam, to convice people to spend their money! I don't know what I would have done w/o the Lexapro my doc prescribed me when I found out my H was having an A. I was a mess! I'm not one for taking any kind of meds, not even for headaches (unless it's bad enough) but there was no way I could be a mom to my kids w/o that drug.
Darth Vader Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 I don't know what I would have done w/o the Lexapro my doc prescribed me when I found out my H was having an A. I was a mess! I'm not one for taking any kind of meds, not even for headaches (unless it's bad enough) but there was no way I could be a mom to my kids w/o that drug. Perhaps it helps some people, but not others? That must be why they state results may vary!
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