Gold Pile Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 I've met a few women that I really, really like, but do not find sexually attractive at all. Usually it's their sense of humor, brains, or great outlook on life that I like. Sometimes I wish I could hold them long and hard. But how can you say to someone that you want them in a non sexual way, without hurting feelings? It's like saying I like you but you're ugly to me. I could do a cozy, clothed, sexless evening with a lady I was fond of. How many women would be satisfied with this? Mind you were not talking about an otherwise sexually active couple enjoying an evening without sex. PS: My reputation being what it is, I'll be clear that I'm very serious
burning 4 revenge Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 Go to a urologist and tell him you're having probems and hell give you viagra. Im being serious
Taramere Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 I could do a cozy, clothed, sexless evening with a lady I was fond of. How many women would be satisfied with this? I'd find it quite odd. A hug is fine, but I'm only comfortable with extended periods of cuddling if I'm in a sexual relationship with that person. Or if it's an animal I'm cuddling. Can you bark like a dog, Gold Pile?
norajane Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 Maybe you haven't given those ladies enough of a chance to become attracted to them sexually. I've met many men that I normally wouldn't think are hot or sexy, but when I get to know them their intelligence or humor or charm or something is so compelling they become hot and sexy to me. The fact that you want some kind of intimacy shows that you do find them compelling. Give it time and you may find that turns into sexual desire.
blind_otter Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 I'd find it quite odd. A hug is fine, but I'm only comfortable with extended periods of cuddling if I'm in a sexual relationship with that person. Or if it's an animal I'm cuddling. Can you bark like a dog, Gold Pile? Agreed. I actually did this once. I was sick (read: hung over), and I asked a guy I knew to bring me gatorade. He came over and held me. He wanted more, but I was not attracted to him. In the end it felt kind of gross, maybe because I wasn't sexually attracted to him but I knew he was, to me. Ick. All I remember is his smell. He wasn't stinky, but it was just...mildly repellant? Usually I like to sniff guys who I'm attracted to. I love the way my SO smells, even when he's sweaty.
Author Gold Pile Posted February 15, 2008 Author Posted February 15, 2008 Go to a urologist and tell him you're having probems and hell give you viagra. Im being serious Who needs a Urologist, I got Viagra coming out my ears. I use it sometimes cause it makes it harder, longer lasting, and it even seems bigger. This is a treat for the lady but not so satisfying for GP. After hooking her n the V me, I stop using it so I too can be satisfied. Anyway, you're off topicing me.... V or no V I don't want sex with unattractive (to me) women.
Art_Critic Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 GP.. You can't cuddle with a friend and you can't tell them they are ugly because then you aren't being their friend.. If you have categorized a woman as only to be a friend then it wouldn't be fair to ask her to provide emotional comfort to you that someone other than a friend provides. If you like being around her then just accept her as your friend , just like you would do if she were a guy and if you can't do that they you need to cut her loose..
Touche Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 Sure you can have intimacy without sex, but why would you want to? It would be settling in my book. And a man like you, clearly doesn't have to settle.
Author Gold Pile Posted February 16, 2008 Author Posted February 16, 2008 Art, I forgot just how wise you are. There is an unattractive lady in my circle, that I treat like one of the guys. I know she "wants" GP because she had a mutual friend attempt a little match-making. I just can't stomach a sexual relationship with her. (I did sleep with the would be match-maker. We both felt pretty bad about that. That's a true GP story that you'll never hear about) It's pretty clear from the replies here that an intimate/sexless fling wouldn't go over well. Too bad, she's in tough times. I'll stay the friend then. Touche... If I knew how to spell it, I'd say you were being sarcastic:laugh: You're darn hot by the way!
norajane Posted February 16, 2008 Posted February 16, 2008 It's pretty clear from the replies here that an intimate/sexless fling wouldn't go over well. Too bad, she's in tough times. I'll stay the friend then. Girls sometimes do the intimate/sexless thing with guys who are into them, but they aren't into the guy. You know what I'm talking about - guy is into the girl, girl only likes him as a friend, girl hangs out with guy because he's a nice back up and does nice things for her, guy thinks if he hangs around long enough being her very good friend that she'll eventually start thinking of him as a boyfriend and will want more, and she even cuddles with him when she's lonely and wants some human touch but she's never going to take him out of the friend zone... It's not pretty.
Author Gold Pile Posted February 17, 2008 Author Posted February 17, 2008 ...It's not pretty. It sure isn't. To a point I (and I think most guys) am willing to hang with a lady till she gets comfortable enough that she MIGHT someday use me for sex. This is especially true of girls on the younger side of my range, they gross out at an "older" guy hitting on them. They have to think it's their idea to start something. I just manage to be around and look sexy:cool: But I'm drifting from the original point of this thread:o
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