Sand&Water Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 I am confused as to where I stand with this man. Am I just another woman he is playing with? Primarily, here is the gist of the situation. I met "Kevin" (not his real name) towards the end of last year. Within the first 5 days, he said "I like you. I think you're a wonderful woman." and he made it obvious by dropping compliments, being flirtatious, and attempting to grow closer to me. This didn't sit well with me, at all. Then, at one point he added, "I want us to buy a house together. I want to build things for you, so that we could grow together and enjoy each other". I thought he was insane. He must have been joking. Right? Such words belong to a couple of 5 years, not 2 strangers of 5 days! I ignored his striking attitude. I plainly kept it platonic, light, and refreshing. Nothing too serious. I made it clear to him that it is strictly friendship. He agreed -and to make things even more strange, he said "I don't expect you to feel the same way or anything. I'm happy just seeing and being with you." Fast forward a few weeks, everything is good, but this was about the time I was going through a difficult time in my life, and asked him to give me some space and respect my privacy. He didn't take that too well, to say the least. I wanted to be alone, and thought he'd understand but I guessed wrong. He then started accusing me of "Playing Head Games", intentionally "Lieing" and "Being Someone Else Other Than Who I Really Am" -basically a con-artist. I was completely appalled by the accusations, I didn't think I could continue associating myself with this man. I sent him a rational e-mail explaining how much of a jerk he is, and that all he cared about was himself and no one else. I wished him the best, and told him I didn't think it'd be worthwhile continuing this journey with him. Amongst this e-mail, I asked him if he had any romantic feelings towards me? His response wasn't very clear, he treaded around the bush for a bit then finished with "I think we're good friends -and not a whole lot more". At that point, I took his words for it. He went on to explain himself, and what he really meant by all this mess. I gave in, as I knew the goodness in him. Recently, him and I have been really getting to know each other but he's been at it, again. Telling me all the "Lovey-Dovey" stuff. I don't know what to believe anymore. I mean, I've started to like him and to be honest, I don't want to get hurt because he's made his thoughts clear about the fact that he doesn't think we'll date -let alone have a relationship. Is this man in denial? Are we really friends? Does he have feelings for me? Or Is he using me to achieve something (whatever that is)? Using me? One Note: "Women are irrelevant". That's what he told me. He doesn't want to bother himself with women, he'd rather focus on his career and passions in life. IF that is true, then why is he doing this and treating me this way? Sand&Water
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