Issues & tissues Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 (edited) It is no secret that men and women tick differently and that it is most apparent when trying to communicate. There is no doubt that the underlaying problem is in our hardwiring. Some would argue that men simply tell it as it is, while us women, tend to read into and analyse things said or done in order to understand the subliminal message. We often see posts on here which open with "What does he mean by...?" or "Why does she say X if she means Y?". So in the light of the above, I would be interested in hearing from my fellow Loveshackers what you belive our ex's mean when they say: --please note that the examples below were said by a male - the dumper - but would be interesting to see how men and women interpret these phrases [if at all] differently -- 1. Sorry, I just don't love you the same way any more. 2. Let's keep in touch. I care about you. I need to know that you are going to be fine. 3. I love you. You are sweet. [famous last words when moving out] 4. I'm tired of playing house. 5. The last [insert number] were a mistake. 7. I'll probably change my mind in 6 months and come back to you. 8. I'll call you. [and of course never does] 9. No-one loves me/will ever love me like you do. 10. I don't have to explain anything to you. You are not my wife. You are not the mother of my children. [ouch!] Any thoughts on this would be greatly appreciated. Feel free to add your own too. Edited February 14, 2008 by Issues & tissues
ElvenPriestess Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 How about this: 11. You're not the person you were when I met you.
ANGUISHEDandBROKEN Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 From a mans point of view....at least mine Im gonna give it a try.... 1. I´ve meet new and interesting people with diferent ways of seeing the world, and since I´m so tired of seeing it "our" way, Im going to try new things. 2. Stick around just in case I dont like what I see. 3. Dont hate me for doing this. 4. ? 5. ? 7. Let me give you some hope so you can boost my ego once in a while. 8. Dont call me. 9. I really apreciate you for loving me so much, but its just not the way I need it, Ill look for it elsewhere...hang in there buddy! 10. Its over see... If I really did mean some of the things I had said before, I wouldnt need to say this, but.....ITS OVER!!! Notice you have no Nº6..... This was fun......
prisonbreak Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 I was also curious about #7..OMG he said the EXACT same thing! Well, more like this, "I'll probably regret it in 6 months, but maybe then we'll see". Are sure that's what that means?
Ronni_W Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 7. I'll probably change my mind in 6 months and come back to you. It could also mean: (a) I'm giving myself 6 months to find something better than this. (b) I'm confused but I intend to keep you on a string until I find exactly what I want and need. © I'm not stupid enough to burn all my bridges. (d) You'll do if I don't find anything better in the next 6 months. And, of course, "6 months" will extend to 12 and 18...however long it takes for the person to find what they perceive is lacking here (not realizing that the lack is within him/herself and not "out there" somewhere.) I think 4, 5 and 10 are intended to hurt, whereas the others are to placate and keep doors open in case things don't work out in the perceived greener grass.
Haohmaru Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 1. Sorry, I just don't love you the same way any more. 2. Let's keep in touch. I care about you. I need to know that you are going to be fine. 3. I love you. You are sweet. [famous last words when moving out] 4. I'm tired of playing house. 5. The last [insert number] were a mistake. 7. I'll probably change my mind in 6 months and come back to you. 8. I'll call you. [and of course never does] 9. No-one loves me/will ever love me like you do. 10. I don't have to explain anything to you. You are not my wife. You are not the mother of my children. [ouch!] 1. He's finally manning up and telling you this after weeks and months of coming to terms with what is sure to be your dramatic reaction. Listen to him, and get out. 2. Leash Theory 3. Leash Theory 4. I want to go bone other chicks 5. Don't understand. Like, the last 6 -girlfriends- were a mistake? Or the last 6 -years- were a mistake? 6. There's no six! Six=sex 7. Leash Theory 8. Leash Theory/trying to stop you from crying 9. Trying to decide whether anything better is going to come along 10. OUCH! Low blow; but probably means you were trying to effeminate him. Don't do that!
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