Goldenlove Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 Hello to you all, this is my first posting and i need your advice and guidance. I have been married for 22 years, my hubby and i are both 45 years of age. I miss sex very much, in the last 4 years we have only had sex 5 times! i miss the closeness & affection more! Hubby does not miss the intimacy like i do, he is always tired due to long working hours and working over-time, i try so hard to look sexy for him, dont nag him, keep fit, dress nice and he just is not interested anymore. Even though sex is a small part of marriage, to me the lack of it is making me more upset, unwanted and unloved. I have been proposition by other men, but i have no desire to cheat on my hubby, i want my man and no one else. How can he change so much from having sex 3 times a week to nothing! Marriage was good as we have wonderful children and a grandchild, and great friends......and we are good friends too, but i still crave for intimacy, it is now ruining our marriage! He says i am obssessed with it, and it seems the more i throw myself at him, the more turned off he gets!!!! i just dont know what to do!! Can i win back my hubby's affection, please all you men out there ...tell me what i need to do. Or cut my losses and realise he will not change and move out?
directx Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 Have you really talked to your husband about it or just tried instigating sex each time? I would 45 is still very young for having sex. Have you considered your husband might be having an Erectile Dysfunction and is just embarrassed/denial about it? Just some thoughts.
Author Goldenlove Posted February 14, 2008 Author Posted February 14, 2008 thanks for your reply directx.....i have tried on many occasions to seduce him and no he does not have erection problems. I have asked him if he loves me and he says "yes!" and i have asked him why wont he make love to me....he answers "not tonight, tomorrow!" or "im not in the mood" I have asked him him if he is seeing someone else and his says "dont be stupid, when would i find the time" He is avoiding me, pushing me away, and i feel he is punishing me......for what i dont know!
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