monkey5 Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 I have a fairly serious question which I would like to be answered, if anyone would take the time to help me out. When I was little, I suffered from a seizure disorder caused by hormonal imbalances. I continued to have them up until I was 12 years old. During that time period, I was on a medication known for causing it's female users to have infertility problems. I am 19 years old, and I realize this is a bit early to worry about this...but it would be nice to know. Now, when I start dating somebody, and it becomes serious to the point of talking about an engagement or marriage...when do I tell the guy I may not be able to have children? I know this is a bit ridiculous, as I don't really want children of my own anyways...so I want this question to become a 2-way. How do you tell a future fiance'/husband that I don't want, or can't have children? Thank you in advance for those who answer.
Cobra_X30 Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 Now, when I start dating somebody, and it becomes serious to the point of talking about an engagement or marriage...when do I tell the guy I may not be able to have children? I know this is a bit ridiculous, as I don't really want children of my own anyways...so I want this question to become a 2-way. How do you tell a future fiance'/husband that I don't want, or can't have children? Thank you in advance for those who answer. Later rather than sooner! Why? Becuase you don't know yourself. When you two have the "kids" talk, then it's good to mention. I'd let it be organic and just happen whenever. Either way... you dont know for sure. Some guys are nuckleheads and will just think it means you don't need to use any sort of birth control! Trust me, each guy will see this different.
Lauriebell82 Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 I have a fairly serious question which I would like to be answered, if anyone would take the time to help me out. When I was little, I suffered from a seizure disorder caused by hormonal imbalances. I continued to have them up until I was 12 years old. During that time period, I was on a medication known for causing it's female users to have infertility problems. I am 19 years old, and I realize this is a bit early to worry about this...but it would be nice to know. Now, when I start dating somebody, and it becomes serious to the point of talking about an engagement or marriage...when do I tell the guy I may not be able to have children? I know this is a bit ridiculous, as I don't really want children of my own anyways...so I want this question to become a 2-way. How do you tell a future fiance'/husband that I don't want, or can't have children? Thank you in advance for those who answer. What medicine did you take? Did you have childhood Epilepsy? FYI: Just because the medicine MAY cause that, doesn't mean it did. I have Epilepsy and I was on all kinds of meds that could have caused different side effects. Why did they put you on that sort of medication when you were such a young child? Anway, if you are worried about whether or not you actually ARE infertile maybe you should have a fertility test done. Then you can actually know for sure. But something stands out..do you WANT children if you find out you are able to have them? And I think you should wait a little bit until the relationship becomes exclusive and you are starting to get a little serious. My best friend can't have children becuase of having ovarian cancer as a child, and she told her now husband after about 2-3 months into the relationship. He was okay with it, and now they are going to adopt. But if you don't want children to begin with even if you do find you can have them, then that is a whole different issue.
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