blair08 Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 I don't understand, why are some people like this? I'll try to be brief and to the point. Why do some people like to only surround themselves with people who tell them things they want to hear, but yet if someone tells them something they might not want to hear, like even out of concern, they don't want anything to do with them? I don't get that.
EYECANDY000 Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 tHe truth hurts most times. Peole just want someone there who would sugar coat everything and not tell them what they see is the real problem. Thats my perspective
Author blair08 Posted February 13, 2008 Author Posted February 13, 2008 tHe truth hurts most times. Peole just want someone there who would sugar coat everything and not tell them what they see is the real problem. Thats my perspective Well, that was kind of my thinking. The reason I asked this, is, there is a lady I know who does this. She loves to be around people who tell her things she wants to hear or agrees with her on the way she sees or feels about things. BUt, just the other day, we we're sitting around talking about things, and this one other lady decided to tell her how she felt on a few things about this and that, and the one lady all of a sudden goes off on her saying she doesn't know her and who is she to judge her, etc. It was quite the tangent she went on. I felt kind of bad for the other lady. She didn't mean any harm and when she asked a question, the other lady thought she was implying something when she wasn't. After the one lady left that had asked a question to the other lady who went off on her, she starts to get huffy and bad mouth the other lady who left. Saying really mean things. She does this alot with other people too.
a_torn_novagirl Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 Attention.....basically everyone needs attention every now and then, and some more than others. This lady is use to everything going her way, she has been spoiled by the attention and people agreeing with her so much that she has to be right. Maybe she just has control issues.
EnigmasMuse Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 They are more than likely attention seeking. Its sad really, because they probably feel the only way they can get any attention at all, is to cause a scene and hope others take pity on them.
Meaplus3 Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 I don't understand, why are some people like this? I'll try to be brief and to the point. Why do some people like to only surround themselves with people who tell them things they want to hear, but yet if someone tells them something they might not want to hear, like even out of concern, they don't want anything to do with them? I don't get that. Well IMO..I think it has alot to do with the person's self esteem. If there self esteem is low, then it would make sense that they would be bothered my a negative comment.. however the nice comment's make them feel better about themselves. Just my thought's. AP:)
JackJack Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 Well IMO..I think it has alot to do with the person's self esteem. If there self esteem is low, then it would make sense that they would be bothered my a negative comment.. however the nice comment's make them feel better about themselves. Just my thought's. AP:) I agree that nice comments are good, and positive. However some people who are told things they do not want to hear, even out of concern as someone mentioned, might just be they have a hard time handling the truth and/or someone hit the nail on the head and they can't deal with it. I have family members like this. They make you feel you have to walk on eggshells around them for fear if you say something wrong or the least bit truthful they might blow up. I stay clear of them.
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