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Cold Turkey Ending

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Have done exactly what you're doing. (I'm on day 10). Going cold turkey gives you a real sense of power. Don't tell him ****. Why set yourself up for an emotional showdown when you're afraid you might weaken? You've had enough drama, just let it slip away. (It's also pretty sweet to see that number on your phone and be able to just ignore it. :laugh:)

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IWALH Established Member

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How many AP's were able to end their affair cold turkey and without telling their AP? Did you stick to it?

 

I am attempting to end an EA, and already feeling that empty void.

Help. :(

 

That's pretty much exactly how it was with my situation.

 

We were planning on him coming down to pick up me and our daughter and we were going to move into an apartment in his area (9 hours away) together. The last night I spoke to him, he said he would pick me up whenever I wanted him to and told me that he loved me. Then he said he was really tired and had to go but that he would call me the next day.

 

I waited around the entire next day for his phone call.... which never came. I had a HUGE gut feeling that he decided to stick with his wife and just KNEW inside it was over. So, rather than looking like a jacka$$ and try to call him just to get his voicemail or his wife on the other line telling me he went to rehab again (which is what I assume happened), I just cut my losses, picked myself (and my integrity) up off of the floor and DID NOT CALL. I was so tempted... I won't lie. But, luckily, I have a very stubborn and proud side to me. If someone doesn't want me, I don't try to make them want me. And him not calling me was obviously his way of saying he didn't want me. So I didn't press the issue. I am definitely not one to chase ANYBODY.

 

I haven't talked to him since. I guess you could call that cold turkey, right? It was VERY hard, especially at first. But it eases up. I don't know when it goes COMPLETELY away yet.

 

Stick to your guns! Love yourself! Get out of it. You will be MUCH better off, trust me! Much love!

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Good going Daisy. Keep strong and take care of yourself.

 

People keep saying closure is important. To whom? You've got closure - because you are the one closing it. Closure that includes another person is not necessary - especially if it's more than you can handle. Do what you need to do.

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