Florida Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 Another good coping strategy is that if you are in a situation where you feel that you are about to say something that you will regret or are getting increasingly upset, just leave the room and go calm down. And i'm not talking to storm out of the room and slam the door, I mean just take a "time out." Just say "hey I need to go in the other room for a minute and think, I'll be right back." Thanks LB, yeah it's hard but sometimes it just feels so good to explode in the moment, (explode meaning a stream of blurting out every single thing that had been on your mind for awhile). That is really good advice, what do you think Fray? Think you can do it too? I wonder though, that guy that can predict with 95% accuracy who will divorce and who won't: he says that arguing isn't bad. Heck, even yelling isn't bad if both people are. It is when things: -escalate -get into name calling (usually labels that hurt and damage the feelings, not necessarily cursing) -and when an "olive branch" is extended in the form of a joke or a sidetrack point or a touch to diffuse the tension, but the other partner ignores it and keeps escalating. Some guys HATE arguing period, so it makes me wonder if they need to be with someone who also HATES arguing, so both can equally sidestep all issues and quietly simmer with resentment instead.
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