KnownTruth Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 I haven't posted on these boards for awhile, but some might be aware of my story. I finally got up the nerve to end it with my MM. I wrote him a email just telling him how I was feeling. How I am tired of the lying, sneaking around, feeling guilty, worrying, not sleeping well, sad, and thinking about when will he divorce his wife if ever. I had to lay it all out for him. I will not be some ones sloppy seconds anymore. He hasn't made any sort of choice so it was time to make it for him. But for now, it's best that we leave things back as friends. We were friends for several years before this. We do value each others friendship. Now that we don't work together anymore and he lives over a hour away from me the temptation is not around. Since all this took place I have felt very different. I have become alive, not so sad, sleeping well, just in a better mood and not snapping at people. I feel like a big weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Being involved with a MM gave me so much guilt and I didn't realize what it was doing to me before. My advice to all people that want to end their affair is to stay strong and just do it. It's not easy and will be difficult but better in the long run. If the MM is serious about us OW he will divorce his wife and be with us. No more having his cake and eating it too. I was making things too simple for him before. Thanks for reading my story so to speak. Good Luck to you all.
Elena62 Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 I haven't posted on these boards for awhile, but some might be aware of my story. I finally got up the nerve to end it with my MM. I wrote him a email just telling him how I was feeling. How I am tired of the lying, sneaking around, feeling guilty, worrying, not sleeping well, sad, and thinking about when will he divorce his wife if ever. I had to lay it all out for him. I will not be some ones sloppy seconds anymore. He hasn't made any sort of choice so it was time to make it for him. But for now, it's best that we leave things back as friends. We were friends for several years before this. We do value each others friendship. Now that we don't work together anymore and he lives over a hour away from me the temptation is not around. Since all this took place I have felt very different. I have become alive, not so sad, sleeping well, just in a better mood and not snapping at people. I feel like a big weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Being involved with a MM gave me so much guilt and I didn't realize what it was doing to me before. My advice to all people that want to end their affair is to stay strong and just do it. It's not easy and will be difficult but better in the long run. If the MM is serious about us OW he will divorce his wife and be with us. No more having his cake and eating it too. I was making things too simple for him before. Thanks for reading my story so to speak. Good Luck to you all. It's hard staying NC isn't it? Good for you that you've done this. I'm doing the same, too. But I didn't write, call or confirm anything I have just simply cut myself off - cold turkey. Since then, I have slept better. But I'm trying to find myself now. I'm trying to get myself back on track and I've had some great ideas to go forward with my life. With time the pain gets easier - or so I'm told. Well done to you for taking positive action! Hugs!
whichwayisup Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 Good for you on ending it, atleast the physical side of it! But for now, it's best that we leave things back as friends. We were friends for several years before this. We do value each others friendship. Now that we don't work together anymore and he lives over a hour away from me the temptation is not around. You do know you two cannot be 'friends' all that does is turn the PA into an EA, even if you don't see him that much - Are you still in contact with him by phone, emails, IM's?
juliegeraci Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 Didn't work for me either. I was friends with him for 5 years, 1 was PA, 2 were EA. EAs are just as bad if not worse. You need to cut your ties. Good luck.
LOVE DAISIES Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 I am ending an EA too.I wish you the best.it is not easy.
juliegeraci Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 Daisie, how are you doing? How is the NC coming along?
LOVE DAISIES Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 Still sad..I have another thread..."COLD TURKEY ENDING"...
juliegeraci Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 I just posted there. we can support each other. Mine is similar.
LadyDi Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 The MM ended our A...nc is hard, and I don't think the working together helps either. I don't think I can be "friends".....count me in with you girls.
mistie03 Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 Good for you that you did what you think was best for you! Good luck.
OpenBook Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 The MM ended our A...nc is hard, and I don't think the working together helps either. I don't think I can be "friends".....count me in with you girls. I couldn't be "friends" either with my MM... and I had to see him at work every day for two years after he ended it. It was pure torture. I had to go back to the old workplace after I had moved on to another job. When I saw him, he gave me a hug. It felt gnarly. I was so glad to walk away from him that day. It felt like I had finally, completely put it behind me. Yes!!
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