Author Lyssa Posted February 14, 2008 Author Posted February 14, 2008 Plant yourself the prettiest little garden on the planet - and when you weed it, or fertilize it, or plant something new - she'll be right by your side. SF Thank you, SF. That is a wonderful plan! My father is taking care of our garden at the moment. The initial plan was for my mother and I to have our own small section with all our fav plants so I think I will do that when I have a bit of free time. Just a few days ago, I bought a plant - I don't know the name of it but it has small white flowers. Very pretty plant - I bought 10 of it and planted it around my mother's grave! So all four sides, we have the tiny white flowers and on the grave - Japanese roses!
Author Lyssa Posted February 14, 2008 Author Posted February 14, 2008 Anyone who can't empathize with anyone's loss HAS huge problem! I'm glad I am able to empathize with anyone and anything. There was a time I avoid watching news cause it made me cry a lot! Again, I was too slow to edit
directx Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 Lyssa, you just do what you have to do at your own speed and don't worry about anyone else. As long as your blues don't lead you to harm, just let your feelings run their course. You can always post on LS
Author Lyssa Posted February 15, 2008 Author Posted February 15, 2008 Directx - Thanks! Don't worry, it hasn't lead to self-harm and I don't think I am capable of that. I don't think my late mother would like that to happen! As for today, I am doing slightly better. I kept myself busy with work, well there was an extra load of work so that really helped. My co-workers have been supportive - I kept to myself most of the time and last few days, it was too much for me and I burst out crying. It shocked them - especially the guys - but they realised how hard it is for me so they have been supportive. I am still not comfortable in letting out (we are all close since there are only 5 of us in my branch) but perhaps when I am more comfortable, I will. If not, there is always LS
Always Wrong Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 Hi sweetie! It's good to see you are feeling better. Hang in there. We love your spirit. The world is warmed by your presence. I feel the warmth every time I read your words. ((((Big Big Hug)))) Always
White Flower Posted February 26, 2008 Posted February 26, 2008 You are at a loss, but you are not weak. Nobody is going to blame you for being down right now, in fact they are going to be completely understanding and compassionate. Your brothers are supposed to be 'strong' during this time, but they are feeling just like you; they probably just aren't supposed to show it as men. And they do have wives who keep them busy. You are not alone, but since you live alone without any siblings you notice the loneliness more. My heart goes out to you. Allow yourself to cry. The more you cry the faster you heal so do not hold it in. There's a great book by John Gray called, "You can heal what you can feel". If you can, pick it up. Crying is actually a good thing. Hugs, sweetie, and take care. PM me anytime, love. WF.
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