Lookingforward Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 It seemed just so right (not to mention romantic) that we met on V day, but now it's over I am dreading the day, one for the memories and the other because the world seems geared to loving couples. I just have to somehow get past this date intact... I thought I was doing pretty well until the last few weeks when I have suddenly begun having dreams about him - something I never did while we were together or just after the breakup, when I would have expected to - and I need to get through this without contacting him. So.. if you are dreading it too for whatever reasons, how do you get past it ?
OpenBook Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 No, actually I'm relieved I'm not bound & gagged in one of those "loving couple" relationships. I've seen (and been through) too much ugliness in M's and R's. I'm happy to be free! On Valentine's Day, I look for those little chalk-candy hearts and read the sayings on them. Some of them are a hoot!!
Tomcat33 Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 Ok if you feel it is too hard on you LF, do the antiValentine's thing. Get together with some girlfriends at a bar or lounge for a drink and some laughs. Stay clear of restaurants they will be plagued with couples having their "night" and this will only make you feel worse. Or better yet invite your friends over for a dinner part at your place, have some wine and entertain the night away. When you host a dinner party you are clueless to what is going on outside of your house. Dinner parties at my place always get me through the rough times... Personally I don't mind V day at all. I find Valentine's is a day like no other I find extremely hard after a breakup a b-day and Christmas but Valentines...nahhhhh. No, actually I'm relieved I'm not bound & gagged in one of those "loving couple" relationships. :lmao: Oh my god I thought you were going to say "I am relieved I am not bound and gagged in one of those lace and silky outfits I have to wear for the special man in my life at the end of the night..." :lmao: (Freudian slip....mine that is....)
OpenBook Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 :lmao: Oh my god I thought you were going to say "I am relieved I am not bound and gagged in one of those lace and silky outfits I have to wear for the special man in my life at the end of the night..." :lmao: That too. I am just not into bondage at all. "I shaved my legs for THIS?!?"
Prodigal Princess Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 You need to plan something to take your mind off the memories - why not round up all of your single mates and go out for dinner and drinks together? Also, lots of bars cash in on the anti-Valentines day sentiments by hosting singles parties on the night. Perhaps you could go to one of those? Alternatively, plan a night of self-indulgence at home. This year, I will be spending V-Day on the couch, eating a family size block of Cadbury and watching Melrose Place on DVD. I can't wait!!
GreenEyedLady Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 No, actually I'm relieved I'm not bound & gagged in one of those "loving couple" relationships. I've seen (and been through) too much ugliness in M's and R's. I'm happy to be free! I'm happy to be bound and gagged in one such "loving couple" R... We're so sickening sweet to each other if it was anyone but me, I'd have a cavity already... OP: Do what you need to do to get through the day...Go out with other single friends...And if the R isn't meeting your needs, think about reevaluating it...You shouldn't stay in something that hurts...
Author Lookingforward Posted February 13, 2008 Author Posted February 13, 2008 GEL, I'm not in it anymore, that's what hurts or maybe it's he's not but I still am ? (kinda sorta)
GreenEyedLady Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 or maybe it's he's not but I still am ? (kinda sorta) I know what you mean...But still do what you need to get through it...Your life isn't over, although I know it feels that way...With time you will feel better... Just give yourself a chance to heal...Mourn what was and make your peace with it...That way you can move forward and find the one that was made for you... Valentine's is about love...You still have that love...Just redirect it...Appreciate what you had for what it was...And know that you will love again... (((HUGS)))
Lyssa Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 Having some friends over for dinner and entertainment sound like a really good idea!
bentnotbroken Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 I have a Sociology test. That I plan to make an A on.
Tomcat33 Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 Having some friends over for dinner and entertainment sound like a really good idea! You would be my first guest on the list plus I am sure you would LOVE my friends, why can't you live closer?!!! Yeah dinner parties are so much fun...or it it just me and I love to host parties at my place so any excuse will do... :laugh:
9Lives Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 It seemed just so right (not to mention romantic) that we met on V day, but now it's over I am dreading the day, one for the memories and the other because the world seems geared to loving couples. I just have to somehow get past this date intact... I thought I was doing pretty well until the last few weeks when I have suddenly begun having dreams about him - something I never did while we were together or just after the breakup, when I would have expected to - and I need to get through this without contacting him. So.. if you are dreading it too for whatever reasons, how do you get past it ? I always buy myself something on Valentines day and It ALWAYS makes me feel great!!! I am going to buy myself a watch this time. It just makes me feel special and while others are showing off their gift...I get to show off mine. I have also had male friends and we have decided to do something for each other. Not anything big but it just kept the love and smile on my face. Just remember...it is just one day. Most men dread it even if they do love you for some stupid reason
D-Lish Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 I didn't think V-day would upset me.... but how can it not? Everywhere you look it's about Love and romance. I work in a business that sells romance.... which makes it even worse!! I woke up today struck by this overwhelming feeling of being lonley. I have never been one to define myself through the adoration of another person.... but after being single for so long and only engaging in casual dating.... I just feel that emptiness lurking there. Ever have those days? X-mas was just as hard for me. All my friends are in serious relationships... I don't think I even have a single friend! I don't know what I will do tomorrow. Spit at couples maybe? maybe hang out on the second floor balcony at the mall and spit on people holding hands. That could be fun.
Lyssa Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 You would be my first guest on the list plus I am sure you would LOVE my friends, why can't you live closer?!!! Yeah dinner parties are so much fun...or it it just me and I love to host parties at my place so any excuse will do... :laugh: I know - imagine having the rest as well? I wish I was closer, sweetie! Do we need a reality check in here? It'd be one helluva V.Day, TC! Yeah, I love dinner parties too - not too sure if I'd make a good host but I do love entertaining people.
Lyssa Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 I work in a business that sells romance.... which makes it even worse!! Gee whizz... that sucks, D-Lish! [[hug]] Ever have those days? You're not the only one. V.Day isn't big over here as it is over in Canada or the US and doesn't get to me cause I don't celebrate it BUT I do have those days when you just feel so alone. I don't know what I will do tomorrow. Spit at couples maybe? maybe hang out on the second floor balcony at the mall and spit on people holding hands. That could be fun. Well, if you feel the need of some help - you can count on me. It'd be fun
D-Lish Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 I always buy myself something on Valentines day and It ALWAYS makes me feel great!!! I am going to buy myself a watch this time. It just makes me feel special and while others are showing off their gift...I get to show off mine. I have also had male friends and we have decided to do something for each other. Not anything big but it just kept the love and smile on my face. Just remember...it is just one day. Most men dread it even if they do love you for some stupid reason Maybe tomorrow I will come home from work and take a sleeping pill.... then I will wake up the next morning and the whole stupid celebration of love will be over.
9Lives Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 I didn't think V-day would upset me.... but how can it not? Everywhere you look it's about Love and romance. I work in a business that sells romance.... which makes it even worse!! I woke up today struck by this overwhelming feeling of being lonley. I have never been one to define myself through the adoration of another person.... but after being single for so long and only engaging in casual dating.... I just feel that emptiness lurking there. Ever have those days? X-mas was just as hard for me. All my friends are in serious relationships... I don't think I even have a single friend! I don't know what I will do tomorrow. Spit at couples maybe? maybe hang out on the second floor balcony at the mall and spit on people holding hands. That could be fun. Do something nice for yourself. It really works!!! Buy yourself something that you really want. I promise it will cheer you up and clear up some of the jealousy.
D-Lish Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 Do something nice for yourself. It really works!!! Buy yourself something that you really want. I promise it will cheer you up and clear up some of the jealousy. Herein lies the problem.... I own a lingerie Store... (a classy high end one - no toys or crazy stuff)... The whole month has been about wrapping gifts and merchandising for this silly day. Yes- it does bring me some cash flow.... but it is also is a constant reminder that I AM ALONE. I WILL come home from work tomorrow and just chill. Have a bath, strangle hug my dogs.... then go to bed early. Maybe I will rent some horror movies. That always lifts my spirits.
White Flower Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 No, actually I'm relieved I'm not bound & gagged in one of those "loving couple" relationships. I've seen (and been through) too much ugliness in M's and R's. I'm happy to be free! On Valentine's Day, I look for those little chalk-candy hearts and read the sayings on them. Some of them are a hoot!! I like those too! I wish they made ones with naughty directions on them. How fun would that be?
White Flower Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 You need to plan something to take your mind off the memories - why not round up all of your single mates and go out for dinner and drinks together? Also, lots of bars cash in on the anti-Valentines day sentiments by hosting singles parties on the night. Perhaps you could go to one of those? Alternatively, plan a night of self-indulgence at home. This year, I will be spending V-Day on the couch, eating a family size block of Cadbury and watching Melrose Place on DVD. I can't wait!! Melrose Place in Australia on Valentines Day. Wow! And I hope you enjoy it thoroughly:0
White Flower Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 I have a Sociology test. That I plan to make an A on. I love it Bent! That was quick-witted. I hope you have, ooops, get many more As:)
White Flower Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 Herein lies the problem.... I own a lingerie Store... (a classy high end one - no toys or crazy stuff)... The whole month has been about wrapping gifts and merchandising for this silly day. Yes- it does bring me some cash flow.... but it is also is a constant reminder that I AM ALONE. I WILL come home from work tomorrow and just chill. Have a bath, strangle hug my dogs.... then go to bed early. Maybe I will rent some horror movies. That always lifts my spirits.Interesting that you have a lingerie shop. I wonder, is it easy to tell if a man is a MM shopping for his W? His mistress? Have you ever seen a man buy two different sets in different sizes? Whole new perspective on killing two birds with one stone. Also, is it always or sometimes assumed that a cash-paying man is a MM shopping for his OW?
Phateless Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 It seemed just so right (not to mention romantic) that we met on V day, but now it's over I am dreading the day, one for the memories and the other because the world seems geared to loving couples. I just have to somehow get past this date intact... I thought I was doing pretty well until the last few weeks when I have suddenly begun having dreams about him - something I never did while we were together or just after the breakup, when I would have expected to - and I need to get through this without contacting him. So.. if you are dreading it too for whatever reasons, how do you get past it ? I tell everyone Happy Singles Awareness Day and that I proudly boycott V-Day. You'll meet someone better.
White Flower Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 I don't know what I will do tomorrow. Spit at couples maybe? maybe hang out on the second floor balcony at the mall and spit on people holding hands. That could be fun. I have lots of single friends and I never thought I'd say that in my 40s. I am STB single and I have a feeling that this time next year I will be inviting all my single friends over for drinks or out for wine-tasting. As for tomorrow night, I'll be coming home from a high from being with MM during the day and hiding in my room so I don't have to see H and feel his negativity. I'll invite my kids to my room to watch a movie and eat some popcorn and I'll give them their Vday presents then. Thank God for them.
Phateless Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 I don't know what I will do tomorrow. Spit at couples maybe? maybe hang out on the second floor balcony at the mall and spit on people holding hands. That could be fun. lol!! D-Lish, I love you!
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