No More Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 I was into this woman for several years, she was a big influence on me going back to school. I have my Bachelor's degree in Business Management and now I'm going back for my M.B.A. in the fall. I loved this woman more than anything.....however she was in a relationship in the beginning of me meeting her. As time went on I became the Other Man in her life. She wasn't happy in her relationship, but she wasn't ready to give it up either. When she finally did, i was not her choice, but a fling that she had with someone who took her out of town on weekends. I was devasted to say the least, then when she got tired of him she left him alone and started calling me again. (only after several flings in between) But i didn't care, I has happy to hold her and to caress her face and smelled her hair that smelled of a sunny spring morning. But as time went on she wanted to be free and began dating someone else...But everytime she would date someone else she would always tell me about it. I would get mad and ask why, she would call me childish and would not speak to me. after a year of not being with her we got together, It was a nice two months......until she admitted that the reason she told me about her flings was to get me jealous, after that I assumed if she brought up a guy I assumed that she was doing it to get me jealous. I called her on a Sunday night and she was hurrying to get off the phone. I didn't have proof of what she was doing, she could've have been with her mother (that's that email she sent me after my email telling her I was done) But it didn't matter at that point. What mattered to me was I needed to get on with my life, I don't blame her for my decisions, I blame myself. I did tell her to leave me alone and that she was an addiction that I had to rid myself of.
curiousnycgirl Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 Sounds to me like you did what you needed to do. This woman does not appear ready for the same type of relationship you are seeking. The BS of trying to make you jealous are childish games. And if she was with her mother, why didn't she just say that instead of giving you the bums rush? It appears to me that you really don't trust her - and without trust you don't have the foundation necessary for a real relationship. Having said all that - you did say that the things that gave you concern were a year ago - is it possible she has changed while you two were apart? Afterall she did fess up once you two were back together. It's a tough call to make, and I am sure you made the right one for you. Time for you to heal yourself and move on!
Author No More Posted February 15, 2008 Author Posted February 15, 2008 Good evening, It's never easy leaving someone alone but did do the right thing, I changed my phone number and got a new email address. it's cold turkey but overall i'm sleeping at night.
saddad1 Posted February 15, 2008 Posted February 15, 2008 Not sure what to say here - you realise that you had to get rid of her and you did. Congrats. NC her and move on.
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