Kelso Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 As a boy, who has been on a lot of first dates and dates in general - I need to ask you girls ... How do you imagine the dream date? What kind of dates? Lunch, Dinner, Movie (I know its a no-no) What kinds of restaurants? Are we talking about romantic, fun-to-eat, hip and expensive?? What kind of activities after dinner? Cup of coffee at a café, bowling (personally I hate it), game of pool. Just make up a story which would describe a date that you'd never forget. And I want a lot of replies here, because this is gonna be one hell of a thread It's gonna be the thread I look up after 2 years to get new ideas Let's begin
EYECANDY000 Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 Funny, because this guy asked me that question yesterday and I was totally clueless. He kept pressuring me saying I know there is something that you would love to do , and that would put a smile on your face for the whole day.. And still .................. Nothing!!!! Im a prety simple jane! Ill have to come back to this question, and maybe ill have an answer for the guy as well
Dynamo Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 I'm not a girl, but I'll throw my 2 cents in for what it's worth - I don't think the date really matters all that much. If they truly are interested in you as a person, then you guys could just be sitting in a park talking and she'd still have a wonderful time. Not trying to say the date isn't important, but a fancy, expensive date won't cover things up for you if you are boring/uninteresting/she simply doesn't feel attracted to you. That being said, It's my personal belief that they have the best time when you take them on different/unique dates. Every girl has been out to dinner and a movie every time - not every girl has gone wine tasting, or out into the countryside with cameras to do some photography, or sat out to watch fireworks in a park. Of course, there are tons of different factors that come in - your/her age, her personal idea of a good time out (some girls are party animals, some prefer a quiet night in, etc). I don't think you'll get any solid answer on a date that'd be a dream date for your girl. Just make it memorable, that is the key!
Florida Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 Monster Truck rally, after that, a boat ride . He can go fishing, I'll read to him, or vice versa. We would fry up the fish we caught, and eat some graham cracker with some chocolate and marshmallow put in between them for dessert. He would make sure to keep applying mosquito spray on me, because he is cool like that!
melodymatters Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 Well, I like having little " adventures", like going camping in a secluded place or a last minute weekend trip to the beach. Those are the ones that stick with me more than any one night dinner no matter how wonderful, but they also presuppose a bit of a relationship already. Wouldn't suggest it for the early dating period. Oh, and all girls are different, some woman hate camping, or last minute plans, so the 'dream date" scenario is going to have to change with every dream date girl !
Lauriebell82 Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 Well I'll just start with my perfect first date: Date picks me up and holds the door for me. Then he opens the car door for me, and helps me inside. We go to a nice romantic restaurant (not real expensive, but not some cheap diner either) and we have a great conversation about anything and everything. We then go to a park and bring a blanket (assuming this is in months where the weather is nice) and sit and watch the stars and talk. It's getting kind of late by this time we get in the car and he drives me home. He walks me to my door and we have a wonderful first kiss (not too long, not too short, not too intense, just right). He tells me he will call me and that he had such a wonderful time. He turns and walks away but looks over his shoulder as he is walking and gives me a little smile and wink. Alright, anyway hope you like the little story I created. I was describing my first date with my boyfriend..well pretty close anyway!
fluffy0 Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 (edited) I'm already married (though we still try to go out on dates once in a while;)) but here are some of my thoughts: 1. Dinner and a movie isn't bad as if you pick some interesting foreign or indie movie and go to an interesting restaurant with food that maybe she's never tried before. It doesn't ahve to be expensive. That way you'll have something to talk about and she'll remeber the date as being unique. 2. Drive out to a "look-out" place, like some hill where you have the view of the entire city, take a picnic basket or get some to-go food on the way and just talk until it gets dark. (Do this only if you know the girl reasonably well, because I would be kind of freaked out if a guy I just met drove me to a remote location where there were no other people around) 3 Do something in nature. Go hiking, swimming, fishing, etc 4. Offer to hang out with her and a chid she has to watch, like a sibling, niece, son. Most women love it when they see you are good with kids. 5. Create a meal plan that you want cook together. Then go shopping for all the ingredients and go home and make it together. 6. Go expore. Take a road trip together or go to an interesting neighborhood, like chinatown (just make sure the neighborhood is relatively safe to walk around before you go there) 7. Go pick fruit together. I guess this sort of depends on where you live, but I believe most parts of the US, even if they are in cities, have "pick-your-own fruit" farms where you go and pick fruit right off the plants and then pay for it. 8. Go to an antique store together. These are some of the dates I've gone on that i have really liked. Most of the time it was me suggesting the date, saying wouldn't that be fun. I guess to me it was important that the guy I was with was willing to do some of teh things that I enjoyed, because if they weren't, we probably weren't a good match for each other. Just try to suggest doing things that you are into, and if the girl seems put off by them it's probably a sign that you guys aren't a good match for each other because you aren't into the same things. If you think art exhibits and expensive restaurants are pretentious don't offer to take a girl there just to impress her because because then you aren't showing her your true self. Also, don't assume that you should be the one picking the place for aa date Ask her if there is anything she would like to do. As far as things to do on the date, it really depends on how well u know the girl and what vibes you are getting from her. Just try to be polite. If u are going to her place to pick her up and she invites u in, try to strike up a conversation with the people she lives with, like family(especially her parents) roomates, etc. It'll show her you are an open, friendly person Open doors, pull out the chairs for her, let her order first in restaurants. Be really curteous to everyone you come in contact with on your date, like waiters, cashiers, etc. Also, ask her lots of questions about herself and try to let her talk a lot, it'll automatically make her like you more. After the date you planned is over, if things are going well, ask her if there is anything else she would like to do, like go out for coffee or ice cream. The amount of physical contact you have on a first date is very variable. Some girls see nothing wrong with sleeping with a guy on a first date, while others won't even hold hands. If she seems uncomforable with something just back off a little. Edited February 13, 2008 by fluffy0
curiousnycgirl Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 Generally a first date for me needs to be planned to be short - so we both have an escape if we need it. I basically only agreed to first dates over drinks or coffee. If things are going then one of us can say hey do you have plans after this - if not let's grab dinner. If things go poorly you finish your drink and the date is over! IMHO the second date is when it really all begins. If you are picking her up at her home, bring her a single red rose (also sweet if you are meeting up - but a pain in the butt to carry around) - then have some drinks at a not too noisy bar, and then dinner in a not too noisy restaurant. This is your time to enchant each other so you need to be able to hear! After dinner - whatever you are into. It's a good way to see if you two enjoy the same things. You can go dancing/clubbing, or play pool, bowl (I don't particularly like this one either), play darts, whatever. Hope this helped.
BlueHaiku Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 Look guys, like you, we're all different. What we like on a date depends on our age, economic background, education, personality, experiences, etc. The more you understand about people (and differences in ages, economic backgrounds, education levels, personality types, life experiences, etc) and tastes in general the better you'll be at figuring out what might work with any particular girl. General principle, splurge on the date, but not so much you're extravagant. Also, do something that allows you to talk (hence no movies, concerts, etc). You want to get to know her, not just sit next to her while she enjoys something else. For me? Romantic dinner at a nice, but not break-the-bank expensive restaurant - I want a guy willing to spend a little to treat me, but I also want a guy who is going to be wise about money and not spend it like water. How much is too cheap and how much is too expensive? It would depend a little on both our economic statuses - and I'm not yet willing to reveal my economic status to you all here. After, a treat at a special desert place - maybe pie or gelatto. Or maybe a wine bar for a drink. If the weather is nice, a short walk by a lake or beach or in a park - but I'm not much of the outdoorsy type.
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