SarahT111 Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 Heya everyone! Im seeking some stories to motivate myself right now as im VERY low. Im going throught a phase where if I cant live with my ex then I dont want to live at all. I dont think will ever get over this or come through this and see happiness again. I dont ever want anyone but him. So if theres anyone out there who has been completly heartbroken and has recovered and moved onto bigger and better things id love to hear about! How long did it take for you to move and and for the pain to go away? Im so scared im going to be stuck in this depression forever so any stories of moving on and finding happiness again when you thought you never would be a real encouragement! And please don't post stories of never being able to move on and being stuck on one person coz it really scares me!!
Belkin Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 Hey, you put a smiley face in your post! Now that's a happy story, isn't it?
realgone Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 it's going to depend on how long you were in the relationship and how much learning you have to do. i healed from a 3 year relationship a few years ago. i did everything wrong after the breakup: calling, rationalizing, pleading, wallowing in self-pity, etc. then when i finally went into NC and started getting on with my life, it really only took a couple of months before i realized i was having a lot of fun again, that i wasn't thinking about her nearly as much, that i was doing good and seeing the bright side. (she came around wanting to get back together at that moment, incedentally.) no one can say how long it's going to be for you, specifically, but it will DEFINITELY be shorter if you do all of the right things: NO CONTACT!!, exercise, eat right, work on yourself, don't beat yourself up, try to have fun, etc. it feels like it'll never end, but it absolutely will.
LOVE DAISIES Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 Awwww Sarah, sweetie, you will be OK I promise. Sometimes you just have to make a commitment to YOURSELF that no matter what , you will get through it. I believe in self fulfilling prophecies.I really do. If you BELIEVE you deserve better and to have a happy life..you will put out that energy and ATTRACT that.The same with the negative. Thing is..only YOU can control what happens to you.It IS a choice. The more positive things you DO for yourself.......the more positive things and people will be around you. Please just start with a positive mindset. What the mind can believe..it can achieve. Try to avoid negative people and negative things...ESPECIALLY anyone going through a bitter breakup. Misery usually loves company..I'm sorry to say, but it's true. Try to stay busy, and involve yourself in motivating and uplifting activities.
dfreeman Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 no one can say how long it's going to be for you, specifically, but it will DEFINITELY be shorter if you do all of the right things: NO CONTACT!!, exercise, eat right, work on yourself, don't beat yourself up, try to have fun, etc. it feels like it'll never end, but it absolutely will. When I first started dealing with my recent break up, I thought I was looking at months and months of that s#1t-eating feeling (about an hour of sleep each night/stomach tied in knots and not eating all day). But, people on here kept reminding me to do the good stuff (exercise, don't beat yourself up, etc.) and avoid the bad behaviors (drive bys, unwanted calls/texts/visits/gifts, etc.) and I feel much better in just about 5 weeks. Of course much better than absolutely miserable is nothing to brag about, but I have been able to mostly forgive myself for my part in the break up, have buffed-out a bit and lost 13 pounds and have had a little bit of fun with old friends in the process. I still feel pretty damn bad about my current situation, but LS can sure get you pointed in the right direction. Hang in there and give yourself a chance to heal - after a short while, you will realize that you don't gotta be all the way healed to feel better
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