Aboohoo Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 Hi guys, Just wanted to let you know whats been happening with my situation recently (quick recap - bf of 3 years, left me for internet gf, now acts like i dont exist, im left to pick up the pieces blah blah blah...) So anyway i had to call him a few times due to money he owes me and he has being a real p***k to me which left me devestated and crying which i hated as he got to see that side of me again.... Anyhoo this morning i went to go on facebook and i saw some of his status' which reffered to him being in love with her, wanting her etc and i was devestated and started to cry but had to get on and go to work which i really didnt want to do but had to. Turned out this was really good for me as it got me back to the real world and took my mind off things. When i got home i decided that his 'power' over me had gone on long enough and it was time i let him know that i knew EVERYTHING (see before this he didnt know i knew about his new 'relationship' which made me feel like he was laughing at me behind my back). I didnt want to call as i knew i would cry and he would probably put the phone down so i left him a private msg on facebook. It was such a great release, i let everything out, the hurt, the pain, what he's lost and what i knew about his relationship etc... i didnt write anything nasty i simply stated how i feel and some home truths and didnt sink to his level. I feel so proud of myself, a weight has risen off my shoulders and feel free to move on, its now his problem, his guilt and its now him that has to deal with it. Im not expecting a reply, he's too much of a coward it was just an opportunity for me to stand up for myself - as i never did that throughout my relationship. I never wanted to upset him during the relationship as i was scared of losing him but now i see its him thats lost me and while he's stuck in the same old situation im moving on and letting go. Just wanted to let you all know that are going through a similar situation that there is hope, im not all saying that you do the same but it may help you move on. Its been a month now since the breakup and im moving to a different city in a month with a couple of best friends and i cant wait. Im not saying that im 100 % over it but im one step closer to getting my life back and living for me.... Thanks
SarahT111 Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 Wow that so great that things are starting to look better for you! I am so happy for you! I know hard it hurts to see the one you loved have moved on soo qucikly and act like you dont exsist. I was devastated beyond belief when I looked at my exs facebook and found him totally in love with some one else a day after my break up! The comments he left her were utterly devastating for me so see and I dont think i'll ever be able to let that go and forget! So congrats to you for being the bigger person! Im proud! o and let me know if he gets back to you! If hes anyting like my ex he will probably ignore it or laugh in your face and act like he doesn't care (this is what happened when I begged for my ex) but dont get down because you are the bigger person and you will come out on top eventually
Author Aboohoo Posted February 12, 2008 Author Posted February 12, 2008 Thanks Sarah - god mine and your ex sound so similar they could be the same person!!!! LOL!!!! No he wont reply - he's too much of a coward for that and he doesnt care about me so he wont bother spending any time writing back - but i dont care. It still kills me inside if im honest but at least he knows i knows - facebook is evil but i cant stop torturing myself and going on his page - i hope with time this 'interest' will end as i move onto the next chapter in my life. I hate this feeling of being replaced but i must remember that in time so will he
Haohmaru Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 I want to send a note of positivity to everyone in this thread. :bunny: With the rabbit!
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