Author LOVE DAISIES Posted February 12, 2008 Author Posted February 12, 2008 I know it hurts really bad. I totally cried yesterday missing my friend/lover. I've known him for 5 years now and we are very close. In order to get myself back to sanity it has to be this way. If I talk to him all it will do is pull me back into the situation. If he truly loves me he will know in his heart what is best for me. We talked about this last week. My life is with my husband and children. I just wish I didn't love him so much. Time will be the only cure along with no contact. Good luck and keep us posted. Thank you Julie.I'm glad you understand. I don't want to care about him because this is so screwed up...but I do. I just cannot do this for another year, let alone another three years. I know it will take time, but I am determined to get over him. Thanks for being here. It does help.
juliegeraci Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 I too was/am addicted to email, IM and calling him. The only way around it is no contact. It will just take some time to get through it. Make some new online friends, come here and have some wine everything will be okay. Ping us if he contacts you so we can help you. Good luck.
juliegeraci Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 P.S. Since 2005 is a long time. Mine has been since 2003 around there. It will just take time.
Author LOVE DAISIES Posted February 12, 2008 Author Posted February 12, 2008 I wll help you out if you need anything Julie...just ask... We'll get through this together...right now I am just trying to get through the rest of the week..
juliegeraci Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 Me too girl! I am going away with my husband this weekend and I'm really trying to recommit myself full heartedly. Its really tough when you love 2 people. Both men are wonderful but its time that my family comes first. Its been going on way too long. Do you date much? Can you find someone new to communicate with online to fill the void?
Author LOVE DAISIES Posted February 12, 2008 Author Posted February 12, 2008 You know ..it's funny Julie....HE is really the only person I communicate with online.I have a career...and a full life.I am not lonely by any means. That's what makes this so hard...I thought our friendship was special, but I realize all it is to him is a game and a fantasy.He likes the attention I give him...but he never intends to act on it. Sorry..I guess I got a little carried away...just a little emotional right now.
juliegeraci Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 You know what my "friend" did last week? He wanted to talk to me which we both typically avoid. So anyway, I called him and we were talking about my fitness and stuff like that. He was my weight loss mentor early on before we started our affair. I've lost 100 lbs! Anyway, I said to him he was all muscle at 215 and he says back, you would know with a chuckle. Proceeds to tell me that he still wants to be involved with me with no drama, is. the husband. About 4 days go by and we talk again and by this time he has changed his tune. You should concentrate on your family, etc. So basically I have made the decision that I no longer want the drama in my life. I do love him, but I really like being married and my husband treats me like a queen. BTW, my husband is aware and has forgiven me. Life is too short. I think you just need to meet some new people.
November Rain Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 Hi Love Daisies... From a response you gave me...You are too nice of a person to be manipulated by this friend. Friends don't treat their friends like you are being treated. You seem to be a kind and caring person and that is what you should receive in return. Be good and true to yourself. Think about what you want and need from another person and go after that. Don't be mislead by someone who is not available to give you that but wants to make you think they can. Remember...actions speak louder than words. I remind myself of that every day. Your friend says alot but what are his actions saying? He was dating someone and they ended up pregnant. In this day and time you don't have to marry someone because you fathered their child. There are other alternatives, yet he chose to marry her. I'm sorry I don't mean to sound mean. I would just like to see you be happy. I don't think this relationship will bring you the happiness you are looking for.
Author LOVE DAISIES Posted February 13, 2008 Author Posted February 13, 2008 Hiya NR Thank you for posting on my thread....I appreciate it. I will definetely take that into consideration!!! Best to you too.....
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