sketcher9015 Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 I'm tired of talking to my dead father and the dog about this. I don't believe in dumping on family or friends. I'm looking for feedback. I've been with him for almost 10 years. He hunted me I never saw it coming. We love each other. But I screwed up, the neighbor set me up needless to saygot me drunk and put me with her brother when my guy was out of town. She promptly took my place. after 1 year of back and forth he came and got me i moved in with him. now he doesn't trust me and i feel i have to defend myself. i love him and know i hurt him very much but i am only with him since that night. when i m not with him i m by myself. can this be fixed i have been trying so hard. it's been since august and i m not gaining any ground. i am afraid to sneeze because i m afraid this breakable relationship will fall off the shelf. this is probably a longest post ever written
curiousnycgirl Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 No it's not even close to the longest post ever. So if I get this straight your neighbor wanted your man, got you drunk and into bed with her brother, and then took your place with your man. Then if I undertand correctly your man went back and forth between you and your neighbor - finally choosing you. This choice occured in August at which point you moved in with him. Finally if I understand correctly you are walking on eggshells trying to earn back his trust in you. Did I get all of that right? So my question to you is why? You are not the only one who strayed here - he did too. If indeed your neighbor set this all up, he fell for it hook line and sinker. Why do you feel you own 100% of the fault? You don't. Had you been caught cheating and he got mad at you, but tried to work it out, or even just walked away - then fine, you would be at fault. But he turned to the neighbor and then strung both of you along for how many months? If your b/f cannot get his head around the past, and move forward in a healthy manner, I strongly urge you to move on!
Author sketcher9015 Posted February 12, 2008 Author Posted February 12, 2008 thank you for the part of me that thinks that way. unfortunately i'm a hard headed person and when i start something i keep with it. we have something special and hurt him and yes it took him a while to see i was set up but i also lied about it until i could see his face he was out of town
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