whatrwedoinghere Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 (edited) So Valentines is around the corner. I asked this girl out. And she said yes. But she asked if she could bring some of her friends along. And me thinking it might be a good idea to be in a group instead of just me and her, so I said it's OK if she brings her friends. Did I do the right thing? Or should I tell her, I thought about it and think it's better if it was just me and her? Thanks! Edited February 12, 2008 by whatrwedoinghere
starlite Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 Don't change it now. Invite some of your friends too. When did you make this 'get together' for? Maybe if this night goes well, you can ask her at the end if she would like to go on an actual date with you.
SeraBella Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 I think it sounds like a great idea. Definitely try to bring some of your friends, too. You'll get a sense of what you're both like, plus, hopefully it will be a good way to get to know each other better. Just keep in mind that a lot of times on group dates like this, you will have to make extra effort to spend time with her. Make sure you try to otherwise you will feel like the night was boys on one side/girls on the other kind of a situation.
Author whatrwedoinghere Posted February 12, 2008 Author Posted February 12, 2008 (edited) Thanks for all your input. Actually, we are friends. We hang out when our friends hangout. So we know each other pretty well. We talk on the phone and such. I asked her last night. And we're going out this Thursday. She said she'll call me to say who are coming with us. I'm gonna call a friend and drag him into this. lol Maybe if this night goes well, you can ask her at the end if she would like to go on an actual date with you.I will do that. Thanks Edited February 12, 2008 by whatrwedoinghere
SeraBella Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 Are you teenagers? Is she allowed to date one on one? In high school I had some friends who weren't allowed to date, really, so they always hung out in groups.
Author whatrwedoinghere Posted February 12, 2008 Author Posted February 12, 2008 She's 20 and I'm 25. I guess she's allowed to. Maybe she's just shy? So she wants a group date than one on one.
Lauriebell82 Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 She's 20 and I'm 25. I guess she's allowed to. Maybe she's just shy? So she wants a group date than one on one. That could be it. A thought occured to me though..you said you are friends, so does she know you are actually asking her out? Or does she just think you are "hanging out" and thats why she wants to bring friends. If she does realize its a date (which it sounds to me like she does) maybe she just feels shy and maybe even that a v-day one on one date is maybe too much pressure. So go along with the group date and then if it goes well I agree with Starlite that you should ask her out on a solo date.
Trimmer Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 That could be it. A thought occured to me though..you said you are friends, so does she know you are actually asking her out? Or does she just think you are "hanging out" and thats why she wants to bring friends. Yes, that struck me, too... "Hey let's go do something Friday night..." "Great, I'll call the gang!" Ummm.... well, not what I meant...
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