Gold Pile Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 My cousin has a girlfriend in my age range. She is pretty, classy, and very intelligent......A perfect match for me:cool: My cousin did everything to talk me up to her, but she just wasn't interested. I tried to hit on her in an understated way, over a period of several weeks...No luck! I gave up. Last June I attended my cousin's picnic party. The yard is a steep grade, that only levels off for the in ground pool. I was walking past some kids playing on a "slip~n~slide" and sure enough I slipped. The grass was saturated with run-off from the slide. I slid down the hill on my back, head first. When it appeared that my head would strike the metal pool filter tank...I let out a yell. Somehow I missed the tank and nearly stopped before falling into pool. I managed only to pause at the pool's edge for maybe 3 seconds before I toppled in. Unlike the other folks, the lady in question wasn't laughing. She helped 2 guys pull me out and she got me a towel. She was very attentive for the rest of the day. The next day she called to see if I was OK (It was only a pool dunk) ...long story short we dated for a couple of months. It wasn't that great, it was ok, but no intensity. My question is why would someone become interested only after the intended made a fool of himself? Thank You
konfuzd Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 Women love to see men at their most vulnerable moments. When you're hitting on her, she knows you're putting on a show and trying to sell yourself. We frankly get tired of trying to break through the guy you're hiding behind, what we really want is to see the real you. When you do something stupid, we know that's you just being you and that's what we love. God bless the buffoons.
Trimmer Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 Just think, if you'd cracked your head on that metal tank, you'd probably be married now.
Ocean-Blue Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 There is something cute about a man who ends up in compromising situations (adds a bit of flavour, something different from the ordinary). Mind you, if he acted like an idiot and was embarassed, then that's not attractive (i.e. refusing help, stomping off in an angry fit). You probably handled yourself well (despite the tumbling and dunking). She probably thought it was cute.
Storyrider Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 This is kind of like the Adam Sandler school of love.
Prodigal Princess Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 Sounds like she has carer's complex. I know a couple of people like that - they only involve themselves in relationships with people who look like they need 'caring'; they love co-dependancy. That's just a guess, but I can't imagine why else she would find your vulnerability (at that moment) attractive. Either way, Gold Pile, it looks like you dodged a bullet there. konfuzd - "Women love to see men at their most vulnerable moments." I disagree! It messes with my world when I see men being weak. I find it extremely unattractive. As ashamed as I am to admit it, I definitely am only attracted to men who fit squarely into their masculine gender role. No crying, no slipping thank you! I'll take care of that side of things.
littlekitty Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 GP, knowing your 'history' I can imagine how you might have approached her!! I suspect that your 'accident' gave her a chance to see you a little more vunerable and she thought she saw the 'real' you!! I personally think Konfuzed put it well!
Author Gold Pile Posted February 12, 2008 Author Posted February 12, 2008 GP, knowing your 'history' I can imagine how you might have approached her!! I suspect that your 'accident' gave her a chance to see you a little more vunerable and she thought she saw the 'real' you!! I personally think Konfuzed put it well! Thanks for the vote of confidence, but sadly the accident wasn't intentional. It ruined my shoes ($40) and my wallet, at least the contents of the wallet (moths and all) dried up ok. Konfuzed put it well as did a couple others. I'm never gonna live the nunsense down, am I?
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