blergh25 Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 Alright, so let me attempt to sum up what this is all about. My gf and I are in a wonderful relationship, we're totally open with eachother, things are mostly good, been dating for about 2 years and things are at a complicated stage currently. We both attend different universities, and this upcoming fall she is leaving for an entire year for a study abroad program and we decided not to bother with a long distance relationship - it will be some nice time apart etc.. So heres the twist.....one of her only friends at school lives in her suite there, and she was originally my gf's friend (not best friend or anything) from high school and now they are rooming. So, over this school year I've gotten to know this girl as more than just a periphery friend....I felt kind of bad actually not getting to know her a little more. Over this last break, my gf went out of the country for the entire 5 weeks, and so the other girl told me she would keep me company and we could hang out etc.. So we did a few times, and 2 out of the 5 or so times we hung out she slept over at my apartment, in my bed with me - no crazy touching or anything sexual, no cheating ..... just sleeping in the same bed. So my gf knows all of this, I kept her updated and we both tell eachother when other people become involved in 'that' kind of way so none of this is a secret to my gf. Now over the past few months, my gf has been increasingly jealous of this other girl - shes more fit, does more work on time etc., etc., and at the same time my gf and I are both attracted to this girl (my gf is dealing with her sexual feelings and whether or not shes really into women etc.) and seemingly, the more jealous my gf becomes, the more attractive the other girl becomes to me. The thing thats just got me down is that my gf knows she is leaving and we will be parting ways, and it will be sad im sure - but she keeps trying to push me off on this girl in a jealous/playful/nonthreatening manner, and the other girl knows everything about me, and tells my gf I have a lot of qualities she wants in a bf and all these things that make it sound like shes interested in me. This situation just gets weirder and weirder......so anyways my gf and this girl live in the same suite - so once in the not too distant past, they got drunk and were together and showed each other their boobs and some other weird stuff.....the next couple days were awkward for both of them im sure. And so after this escapade, my gf and I have been thinking of ways to ensnare the other girl into a threesome (this is more of a fantasy that will never happen really) but i'm sure nothing will come of it in reality. And to top it all off, I'm even getting confused now as to what to do - I love my gf so much, but shes leaving - and even though its only a year of being apart we may very well get back together afterwards and continue on, but its all uncertain.....and to say the least it would make everything weird between all 3 of us if I started anything with the other girl right now. Anyways, its just a weird thing and I know I'm attracted to the other girl, and she is attracted to me as well, and my gf wants us to get together (out of jealousy im almost certain), but it just seems futile to make anything happen here (at least at the moment) and its one of those situations where i have to be the noble guy and wait it out etc.. Although, I've never cheated on my gf and shes cheated on me - nothing seriously just making out with other guys, but weve gotten over that stuff - I just feel confused as to where to go with it all. So to wrap it up in a nutshell: My gf is jealous of her suite mate - suite mate, my gf, and I are attracted to eachother - my gf wants me and suite mate to get together (out of jealousy it seems), and i'm just getting confused as to whats going on..... thank you thank you
kontiki Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 what is your question exactly? what should you do next, or who should you talk to etc.?
Author blergh25 Posted February 13, 2008 Author Posted February 13, 2008 well, should i talk to the suite-mate in anyway? Shes pretty unaware of how I feel and of the situation in general..... I'm also just wondering what other people would do in this situation
ritamae Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 If you feel like your gf and you have a future - DO NOTHING WITH THIS OTHER 'friend'. If you think your relationship with your gf will just drift away when she leaves then go for the 3 some - you never know if/when you will get another chance. If you feel like other girl is a long term possibility - no 3 some. Got it?
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