Person Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 Nothing is working. Certainly not therapy nor suicide hotlines. I feel like suicide is the only escape route to not being able to perpetuate this "relationship" with this girl and I. My excessive worrying over if she'll leave me is in turn driving her away and making her nothing but angry at me. I can't help it, it's so difficult for me to trust her when she fooled around with another guy previously. I've been feeling like crap for seven months now. She's fed up with my worrying and questions and says all I ever do now is make her unhappy and ruin her day. She says it wouldn't be suprising if she left me for this specific guy whom I'm especially worried of. I'm deathly afraid that I will do something reckless if she were to date this guy. I mean, she says my depressions is my problem now. She's tired of helping me and me dragging her down with me. What should I do? GIve up? I really don't want to. How do I make her happy again? She misses the way I used to be--no suicidal thoughts, no worrying. I'm not fun to be around anymore she says. But it's like I've gotten so used to it, that I don't know how to be just myself again.
cant let go Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 Nothing is working. Certainly not therapy nor suicide hotlines. I feel like suicide is the only escape route to not being able to perpetuate this "relationship" with this girl and I. My excessive worrying over if she'll leave me is in turn driving her away and making her nothing but angry at me. I can't help it, it's so difficult for me to trust her when she fooled around with another guy previously. I've been feeling like crap for seven months now. She's fed up with my worrying and questions and says all I ever do now is make her unhappy and ruin her day. She says it wouldn't be suprising if she left me for this specific guy whom I'm especially worried of. I'm deathly afraid that I will do something reckless if she were to date this guy. I mean, she says my depressions is my problem now. She's tired of helping me and me dragging her down with me. What should I do? GIve up? I really don't want to. How do I make her happy again? She misses the way I used to be--no suicidal thoughts, no worrying. I'm not fun to be around anymore she says. But it's like I've gotten so used to it, that I don't know how to be just myself again. honey... i'm sorry you are having these thoughts. i think the big problem here is that you are unhappy with yourself. i know that is the cliche response... but you are stuck in a very unhealthy situation. the fact that you cannot trust her and are paranoid tells me that you need get out of this relationship. please think about what will make you happy in life regardless of whether or not she is in it. what is it that you have always wanted to do? what excited you before you met her? your life is not on track and you need to make some serious adjustments but first you need to know what you want. are you happy in a career? if not, what are you planning to do about it? do you have a trusted circle of friends? do you have friends that are not her friends? do you have hobbies or interests that you have been neglecting? pamper yourself... focus on yourself here and not what you can do to make her happy. YOU YOU YOU!! say to yourself "ME ME ME" complete this sentence: "If I was the last person left on earth I could smile knowing that I can still _____." figure out what makes you happy... and then you can focus on her
Trimmer Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 This is not the place for crisis help with suicidal thoughts. Not that we don't care, but if you are truly thinking along these lines, you need more immediate, direct, professional help. Are you being completely honest with your therapist about the depth of your suicidal thoughts and depression? You need to.
vivrantflo Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 but you are stuck in a very unhealthy situation. the fact that you cannot trust her and are paranoid tells me that you need get out of this relationship. I agree with this quote here.. I tell ya, I know the pain of having someone you love, wanting someone else.. I wouldnt wish that deep pain on my worst enemy... suicide seemed like a great alternative so I wouldnt have to witness, or hear about that relationship.. then.. I asked myself why??? I kill myself... then im dead.. family and friends are left to suffer and mourn.. and guess what.. my ex will still be banging the dude.. so what's the point?? Get out of this relationship, and find YOURSELF. Heal, and get your life back on track. You do not need to make this woman happy, in order to be happy.. if she wants to date someone else.. let her do it. You're not even in the position to handle a relationship with anyone right now. There's no healing, and growth in killing yourself. You don't get to come back and heal.. or move on.. or learn. You're done. Dealing with the pain, WILL make you stronger.. take up a hobby, go to church!! You can be totally happy with yourself if you're willing to work at it. Stay strong man, and keep posting on here... there's so many people here that's willing to talk to you and help.
Tony T Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 Nothing is working. Certainly not therapy nor suicide hotlines. I feel like suicide is the only escape route to not being able to perpetuate this "relationship" with this girl and I. My excessive worrying over if she'll leave me is in turn driving her away and making her nothing but angry at me. I can't help it, it's so difficult for me to trust her when she fooled around with another guy previously. I've been feeling like crap for seven months now. She's fed up with my worrying and questions and says all I ever do now is make her unhappy and ruin her day. She says it wouldn't be suprising if she left me for this specific guy whom I'm especially worried of. I'm deathly afraid that I will do something reckless if she were to date this guy. I mean, she says my depressions is my problem now. She's tired of helping me and me dragging her down with me. What should I do? GIve up? I really don't want to. How do I make her happy again? She misses the way I used to be--no suicidal thoughts, no worrying. I'm not fun to be around anymore she says. But it's like I've gotten so used to it, that I don't know how to be just myself again. See a licensed counselor. You need help. Nobody wants to be with somebody who is down like this. And you...you shouldn't want to be with someone who has cheated on you and threatens to do so again. You need serious help. Suicide isn't the answer...getting help is. Get help now!!!
SpanksTheMonkey Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 Thats nice she cheated and then gets all missy p*ssey pants because as a result you are now Marjory depressed. Mainly because you feel you cant trust her and then she goes and says she will cheat again?? Because she cant stand being around you sounds like some one who doesn't want to take any responsibility for the consequences of their actions on others.
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