Da Foxx Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 It all started in September when school started. She was the new girl at my school. I have her in two of my classes and I see her everyday. Everyday she would look at me and smile but never say a word. I don't remember exactly how we became friends or how it started but it happened, but all I know she the one that started it. She would tease me in class and make me sit right beside her and I would have no choice, lol. She would joke around with me like writing her and my name and then drawing a big heart around it. As months pass we talked more and well things were going well. I still saw her just as a friend. My best friend and a friend of mine made jokes about me and her and I told him its nothing we are just friends. More time would pass, she would now give me hugs now. One day we walked and she hooked her arm around mine.... Well the same stuff happened. One day I just started having feelings for her... Can you believe that? I was going out of my mind and going crazy. Once we talked on the phone for 5 hours straight... I was pretty quite... I guess I just wanted to hear her voice and listen to her rather then me talk to her. I logged into Facebook and I had a message in my honesty box and it was from her. It said, "I love you.. (nickname)." Once I saw the nickname I knew it was from her. The message was posted few days ago though. That night I saw the message we talked on the phone and after we both hung up I send her a text message on the phone saying, "I love you... : )" I dunno why I did that it was stupid now that I th ink about it. She called up my best friend and told him which I had no problem and later she sends me a text message saying, "I'm sorry I didn't think you thought about me that way and I that I'm sorry that I was leading you on..." I feel in shock... My best friend told me she found it awkward and he talked to her about it. The next day we didn't have school. Me and my best friend went to the gym and I got a text message from her saying, "Would you want to have lunch tomorrow?" I was happy it was the best day of my life. I took her out the next day and paid for it too. We talked on the phone and everything was fine. This is were I became stupid. The next day we had a party (drinking happened I never got drunk thought) at the party I've asked her if she would want to take a walk but she refused. In all her photos that we took at the party she seemed happy and everything. When I was sitting next to her I put my head on her shoulder and it didn't seem like she liked it in the photo. One time I sent her a text. The text had a quote from her favorite book and saying how far I got but she never replied. I became even more stupid and thought she might be mad at me we talked less at school no teasing happened it was quite. She started to find it awkward and told she would want things to go back to the way it was. The thing is I rushed the relationship. I told her how I felt and how I feel in love with her. I also confused did she see more than just a friend or just a friend? I asked her and she did but that changed. She gave me excuses such as she didn't want me to change because of her, etc. From that day we haven't talked. My best friend talked to her and she asked about me asking him how I feel and if I still think I have a chance with her. He told her that I'm slowing moving on. She also thinks that I'm overprotective but I never done anything to be overprotective. I still think about her now and then and how foolish I was... Thanks for reading. I hope I can get some advice on what I can do to win her or should I move on completely. I think I rushed it and thats how I ruined it.
Haohmaru Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 She gave me excuses such as she didn't want me to change because of her, etc. Listen to girls; they tell you exactly what they want if you read between the lines. You were being cool cuz you didn't have feelings for her. You were being completely yourself, which exudes confidence and self-reliance. Then when you "all of a sudden" had feelings for her, you turned into a big mushball. Which is NOT attractive. I hope I can get some advice on what I can do to win her or should I move on completely. I think I rushed it and thats how I ruined it. You had her won. Because you were just being yourself. Take the hit and move on. Next time, just keep being yourself.
Author Da Foxx Posted February 13, 2008 Author Posted February 13, 2008 Listen to girls; they tell you exactly what they want if you read between the lines. You were being cool cuz you didn't have feelings for her. You were being completely yourself, which exudes confidence and self-reliance. Then when you "all of a sudden" had feelings for her, you turned into a big mushball. Which is NOT attractive. You had her won. Because you were just being yourself. Take the hit and move on. Next time, just keep being yourself. Thanks I'll keep that in mind. I don't really care anymore so I guess its all good then.
saddad1 Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 You say school had started. Ill assume that your both aged 13-16. Many teenage girls are starting to realise the power that they can have over men. Many are exploring this power, not trying or meaning to be vindicive in any way, just kinda testing to see wot they can do with men; but unfortunately some are knowingly vindictive. For example, this new girl could have been showing u affection in a bid to make other guys jealous (this is more likely to be true if she is really attractive) and therefore want her even more - essentially setting a scene where she can have any guy she wants and manipulate them if she wants. Its just a suggestion, but to me the whole making u sit beside her thing - e.g. "selecting" you; drawing hearts, telling u she loves u and then totally backing off is a bit nasty. If your at the lower end of the age range its more likely that she did really like u and jst got a bit afraid, maybe she hasnt had any boyfriends before? However, her actions in making u sit beside her and being the "aggressor" in the relationship exude a confidence not attached to someone who is totally innocent. Hope this helps - only you can really know who she is and why she would act the way she acts.
Author Da Foxx Posted February 16, 2008 Author Posted February 16, 2008 You say school had started. Ill assume that your both aged 13-16. Many teenage girls are starting to realise the power that they can have over men. Many are exploring this power, not trying or meaning to be vindicive in any way, just kinda testing to see wot they can do with men; but unfortunately some are knowingly vindictive. For example, this new girl could have been showing u affection in a bid to make other guys jealous (this is more likely to be true if she is really attractive) and therefore want her even more - essentially setting a scene where she can have any guy she wants and manipulate them if she wants. Its just a suggestion, but to me the whole making u sit beside her thing - e.g. "selecting" you; drawing hearts, telling u she loves u and then totally backing off is a bit nasty. If your at the lower end of the age range its more likely that she did really like u and jst got a bit afraid, maybe she hasnt had any boyfriends before? However, her actions in making u sit beside her and being the "aggressor" in the relationship exude a confidence not attached to someone who is totally innocent. Hope this helps - only you can really know who she is and why she would act the way she acts. I don't think she is the type of person to do that. Plus about her not having a boyfriend before your right about. I haven't talked to her in a long time now and I can't even look at her without having her to look at me.
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