DawnNC27 Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 My boyfriend has been acting really weird lately. First of all let me tell you a little about him. He's a good man works hard..has his own house.all credit cards and his truck is paid off. He's extremely shy, and in fact, we didn't make love until we had been dating for 6 months..and I was the one who had to initiate it. He only has one guy friend..no female friends. He used to call me every other day..and if I didn't email him every day he would email me. Or text me. The texting has stopped all together. I'm the only one who emails now..and even the calls are mostly coming from me. We recently started a diet and he's been going to the gym a lot. I know he's probably tired, but he never sounds excited to hear my voice anymore when I call. He says he loves me but I just don't feel it anymore. Also, usually his house is a total mess. Three closets just packed with dirty cloths. He's has been working really hard to wash all the cloths in the closet..and usually he has dirty dishes piling up down the counter..but the past couple of months, his kitchen has been spotless! Last weekend, we didn't spend any one on one time..we went out with his family for his bro's bday friday night..did nothing saturday..and saturday night went to his parents to play cards..then i went home. he's been cutting back a lot on his spending lately..buying a lot of stuff for his house like curtains and towels and a new dish drainer. I'M SO CONFUSING AND IT'S TEARING ME APART INSIDE! What is going on with him? I emailed him the other day and told him I felt like he was distancing himself from me and asked if he was still happy in the relationship. He said I was reading to much into it and he was happy and asked me to come over. What is going on with him? Please help?
Author DawnNC27 Posted February 12, 2008 Author Posted February 12, 2008 Someone please respond to this. I need some advice. Today I text messaged him that I love him and he didn't respond at all..no phone call either.
Art_Critic Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 He seems to be spending time with you.. Why would you think he is going to break up with you ?
sedgwick Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 Seems like he just has other stuff going on in his life right now. Makes sense! I don't think you should worry.
Way to Go Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 Someone please respond to this. I need some advice. Today I text messaged him that I love him and he didn't respond at all..no phone call either. It sounds like you may be blowing this out of proportion. He might have some other things going on right now and you should let him work threw it. If he's unhappy with you, he will let you know soon enough.
oh_what_am_I_doing Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 Well I'm going to go against the grain here. You said he has stopped texting and calling you. Well I think that's a problem. Also, it's said that when a guy buys all new underwear, he's cheating to impress his new lover. This may be the same thing: If your man all the sudden is cleaning up the kitchen and buying curtains to improve the looks of his place, that sounds fishy. I'm not saying he's cheating, but I would wonder too if I were you!
Author DawnNC27 Posted February 13, 2008 Author Posted February 13, 2008 It sounds like you may be blowing this out of proportion. He might have some other things going on right now and you should let him work threw it. If he's unhappy with you, he will let you know soon enough. How do I go about that..should I just back off and let him contact me when he wants to? I'm not sure what to do. I know this is odd..but this is my first serious relationship so all of this is new to me.
strife Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 I believe in gut feelings. But avoid acting insecure if you still want to be with him and haven't found any other evidence.
ninjaturtles Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 This is the way my Ex started behaving to me. I would ask him what was wrong and he would say I was over reacting. No one can be sure but you said you text him you love him and he didnt reply you. It sounds dodgy, not gonna lie about that. Please dont allow it drive you crazy. You need to take hold of your emotions. Trust me! I made a mistake by calling him all the time, asking him what was wrong etc. Step back and see if he comes back to you. Reduce contact and observe his patterns. If you dont contact him for 1 week, will he contact you? I think you should have your answer once you try that. xxxx
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