new gf has me wondering

[SamSang]

i am not sure if i am being a complete neurotic *******, but im a little iffy about my new gf. i like her alot and she's really cool and go with the flow, but there have been some red flags i wanted second opinions on.

 

we havent even had sex yet and she's talking a little more than vaguely about her desire to get married, where we'll be in 3 years. she's dropped the "i love you" on me and i feel like i could love her too and there's things im getting to know about her that i love alot. it's just that we have only been dating for about 2 1/2 weeks....we have had intimate times, so i'm not totally in a rush to have sex and i know that that doesnt mean love is there or not....it's just the marriage thing. we're 24 and i want the package of a girl that loves me and has no fear in showing it....i just thought that it would take a little more time to make such grand plans and declarations. i feel kind of rushed and slowed down all at once.

 

i just got out of a 2 1/2 year relationship about almost a year ago, this is the first girl i wanted to date seriously.

 

she's also making plans to move to seattle in august, where her recent ex she dated for 3 years is. they only broke up cos the distance was too far. we live on the east coast. i tend to over think things, but they seem pretty clear to me. she also recently started taking prozac, like the first week into our dating. any thoughts???

Edited February 11, 2008 by SamSang
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[norajane]

she's dropped the "i love you" on me

 

i feel like i could love her too

 

we have only been dating for about 2 1/2 weeks

Trouble, trouble, trouble. Sorry, you don't love someone in 2 weeks. You barely know someone in 2 weeks, much less have had time to develop any kind of real love, and DEFINITELY not the kind of love that you need to sustain a marriage over a lifetime.

 

She may be infatuated and you may be infatuated, and you may have started feeling the "in love" hormones, but that is a LOOOOOOOONG way from actual love. If she's trying to convince you that she loves you and is ready to talk marriage, she's pretty much a loony as are you for taking her seriously.

she's also making plans to move to seattle in august, where her recent ex she dated for 3 years is. they only broke up cos the distance was too far. we live on the east coast.

Um, so what exactly is it you think you and this girl can have together when she's planning on moving closer to her ex and 3000 miles away from you?

 

she also recently started taking prozac, like the first week into our dating. any thoughts???

Wait until her meds kick in and she's more rational. Consider getting some meds yourself if you really think this relationship is going to lead to marriage.

[SamSang]

i dont wanna believe this relationship will go anywhere like that, esp. right in the beginning weeks.....

 

how do i present the "i like you" but that love is a pretty strong word for right now? esp. marriage. i made comments like, I dont plan on getting married for years and that marriage is an institution for some.

 

she says her parents arent even in love, but still married and she wants to do it right etc. etc.

 

i think shes great, but in my mind i run for the hills when i hear that talk!

 

i'll wait a bit to see about the meds....but valentines day is coming up....i may go nuts on the loviest of lovely days....