adorablebabiii Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 I submitted a thread on here a couple days ago and havent gotten any advice yet so im gonna try again. Me and my girlfriend met over a year ago. We actually met on yahoo.. We were really good friends at first and then decided to get together.. the relationship was perfect.. we had little arguements but nothing to serious.We were still friends even in our realtionship.. Well thru out the relationship i lied about a couple of things.. I was going to talk to her about them when we were face to face. Well she came up here to visit me. Before i could tell her anything, she found out about it and right off the bat considered me a liar. I tried explaining thru phone conversations, long emails and texts. But the more i explained it seem like the more distant she got. She would tell me she was in love with me but she was having major trust issues. I continued to pursue and the more i pursued the more distant she became and the communication basically pretty much stopped. She would tell me that her heart wanted to be with me but her mind wouldnt let her at this time. She told a couple of my friends that she was in love with me and she wasnt giving up on us etc... I would call, she would stay on the phone maybe 10 mins and say she would call back but wouldnt. Ive apologized. She said she has forgiven me.. but she has shut me out of her life completly. I dont know what to do, or how to go about this. Ive asked her if she saw us being together again and she said yes. I even asked her if she would be able to trust me again and her response was yeah i think so. Are we done for good? Should i stick with the NC? What should i do?? Please help.. i need some advice. THANX!!
sedgwick Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 But the more i explained it seem like the more distant she got...I continued to pursue and the more i pursued the more distant she became and the communication basically pretty much stopped. That right there is about as good an argument for NC as you can get.
Author adorablebabiii Posted February 11, 2008 Author Posted February 11, 2008 Ooo, i 4got to add... i havent contacted her in 4 days.. Last time i did.. i apologized for everything.. and told her to take care of herself. and she texted me back saying "your saying that like your not going to hit me up anymore" and when i told her i would.. she was still my friend.. she never responded. And a couple days before that, i had went 3 days without calling her and i decided to call just to say hi, which went good.. but she was asking me was i going to have a baby for her..... which really confused me...
sedgwick Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 She broke up with you, and you're male, but she wants you to have a baby for her? Confused. Even if you're female, asking your ex-gf to have a baby for you...huh?
Author adorablebabiii Posted February 11, 2008 Author Posted February 11, 2008 im not a male hunny.. im a female.
sedgwick Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 So she wants you to have a baby for her after dumping you? Kinda seems like that's something you'd want to be on good terms for.
dfreeman Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 im not a male hunny.. im a female. That will certainly make things more pleasant for the baby!
vintagecat Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 I think you blew it. Lying at the outset is a very bad sign for any kind of future together. As you have found out, there is simply no explaining things after getting caught in a lie and in all but the rarest examples, the more you explain the bigger hole you dig. Regardless of what she "tells" her friends, her actions towards you are the most telling and reliable indicators in regards to her feelings about you and sometimes "friends" can for their own amusement may not give accurate accountings of things said and will stir the pot to keep the drama boiling. If it were me I'd learn the lesson about establishing trust here and find someone else. Best of luck to you. Cat
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