Just got asked out for Valentine's Day...

[redfathom]

Since some people interpret the word date to mean different things. That shows how important it is to make sure the other person is clear on how you interpret it. To me dating implies more of a commitment, it's not BF/GF, but's not hanging out either. To you it implies something else. Which is why you should be clear. That's all.

[redfathom]

If you're asking, for example, if I would have dated him BEFORE my BF came into my life, then the answer is yes - absolutely. However, given my present emotional state, I feel incapable of even being interested in anyone else.

 

Then in my opinion, and it's just my opinion. You did nothing wrong and no further explanation is needed to give to him. Be friends, when you feel better and want to start dating and he is still availble and the best option, then great. Either way good luck!!

[Walk]

No shes just been flirting with him for god knows how long and sending him messages to where he thinks he has a chance.

What exactly does your definition of flirting entail? Like.. what is flirting to you? Becasue I consider Stars interaction with this guy as just polite, fun interaction. Unless she's been giving him sexual innuendo's then I don't consider it a 'come on' that she should have to apologize for, or "SEE THE TRUTH" over. And from what I know about Star, I highly doubt she's been bantering sexual innuendo's over email. Maybe I'm wrong.. just my perception of who she is.

 

I don't mistake a girl being nice for buying signals, and rejection is a part of life. You win some, you loose some, but unfortunately, some people don't know this which is why a guy can get rejected and haul off and mow down a shopping mall full of innocent people.

 

That sounds like you're saying a girl who was nice to Ted Kaczynski and then turned him down for a date would be responsible for all of his actions. The instability was already there... it wouldn't have mattered if a girl didn't flirt, did flirt, or dropped dead at his feet.

 

Again, you're attempting to bait me and I'm not going to feed into it. Your entire thread is one big "here I come to save the day" sermon, mixed in with a "THE THRONE is the bad guy" to sweeten everything up. If you were truly concerned you wouldn't attack or bait THE THRONE.

I actually kind of like you throne. Your... obnoxious, but in a well meaning way.

[oppath]

Since some people interpret the word date to mean different things. That shows how important it is to make sure the other person is clear on how you interpret it. To me dating implies more of a commitment, it's not BF/GF, but's not hanging out either. To you it implies something else. Which is why you should be clear. That's all.

 

 

Going on A DATE does not imply commitment. Going on a second date does not imply commitment. If you've gone on multiple dates with a guy, talk regularly, and it seems to be progressing, then you can say "I am dating someone." But if you ask "would you date this person?" how are they to know until they have gone on several dates? I have no way of knowing if I would go out with a woman a bunch of times until I have gone out with her a bunch of times unless I've known her for a long time, but if I'm getting to know someone for a long time with the intention of eventually dating them, is that not leading them astray? Would I not be unclear about my intentions?

 

All she knows is that if her heart weren't hurt, she would like to get to know him better. That is all she knows right now.

[Tony]

I have spent 30 minutes of my life reading over this thread, which after a time became totally argumentative and meaningless. I trust after nearly 100 responses the OP has gotten some advice or comments that were of value to her. I know she's engaged in some of the bickering along with most of the others who posted in the last half.

 

Let's give it a rest, go home and have a nice glass of wine. Thanks!

 

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