bentnotbroken Posted February 20, 2008 Posted February 20, 2008 I didn't miss it, I responded to it actually . One email saying Have a Nice Weekend, doesn't warrant confronting her hubby and possibly getting a restraining order. It is odd for sure. But in my mind, she needs to be on the lookout for more for sure, but still, should wait before stirring up the shirtstorm again. It just wasn't enough to warrant it. If you have ever been a position to try to move on, you would know that the ow continued interference makes that pretty damn hard to do. I know from experience.
D-Lish Posted February 20, 2008 Posted February 20, 2008 The "have a nice weekend" e-mail is actually pretty whacked...I just read about that now. Of course it isn't an attempt to be friendly, it's a way for her to blatenly remind you that she is still around.... What is going on with your H's work? Doesn't everyone there know about it? Is he or her in danger of getting in trouble at all for this? Can he go and work somewhere else???
Author SimpleyMe Posted February 20, 2008 Author Posted February 20, 2008 Co-workers at the company have no idea.Oh yes they would both get in alot of trouble at work if this came out in the open. He has NC with her at work,they do not have to work togther Yes my H can find another job,he has even mentioned it to me that he understands if i want him to find another job and he is willing to do that but I told him i did not want him to quit. I'm not threatened by her I don't want to change my life for her. Maybe I'm wrong but if my H is going to cintinue to cheat he will do it regaurdless of where he is working. I know he does not want anything to do with her anymore,although i can't saythe same for her Do you think i should have had my H quit?
Owl Posted February 20, 2008 Posted February 20, 2008 Did they carry on their affair while at work? Did they communicate during work times, at work locations? CAN they continue to communicate at work without your knowledge?
Author SimpleyMe Posted February 20, 2008 Author Posted February 20, 2008 Yes the A started at work,but they did not communicate during very much,which is why my H created a email so they can send messages where to meet one another after work. Obviously if my H wanted to continue the A he could do it,although i have little to almost no trust in him,for obvious reasons,I do believe him when he say's he wants nothing to do with her and he has nothing to do with her at work.
Owl Posted February 20, 2008 Posted February 20, 2008 Well, more than anything else, I'd struggle with him working in proximity with her after he's cheated, if I were you. You might feel more comfortable with it. It's really all about whether or not you can rebuild trust in him in this scenario, and if you feel the benefit of him working there outweighs the risk of a renewed/continued affair.
NoIDidn't Posted February 20, 2008 Posted February 20, 2008 I haven't read everything added since I posted, but reading about this email from OW makes me wonder......have you tried blocking her email account? That way, she can email all she wants and you don't have to worry about her anymore. Block her. Change your email account.
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