JohnDes Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 I hate making these decisions. I've been out on a handful of dates so far with this woman over the past month. We have a great time together and there's clearly a mutual attraction. The problem is I don't know whether I should get or send her anything for Valentine's Day. It's been a long time since I've dated anyone around this holiday, so I don't know what to do. She's very big on taking things slow, and insists we not be mutually exclusive yet because she's been hurt in the past. I don't know whether I should send a card, some sort of flowers, or perhaps just drop her an e-mail. Maybe I shouldn't send her anything. Part of me is worried that if I send her something, she'll freak out. The other part of me thinks she'll secretly be pissed if I don't send something, even though I'm quite certain she doesn't expect anything. I hate feeling like I could be screwed either way.
Chauncey Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 I guess it depends on the level of your relationship. Obviously you two have seen one another quite frequently the last couple of months, so I would say you have at least a bit of history together. Whether or not she's afraid of being hurt again, almost all women love flowers, and considering that the 14th has been engraved into all of our minds as a day to shower those you love with flowers, candy, jewelry, etc., I don't see why you couldn't send her a little something. My suggestion, a simple flower arrangement (maybe not roses, but something simple, like tulips or carnations). If you are worried about sending the wrong impression, stay away from colors such as red and pink (apparently these are "love" colors). I would also send her an e-card or just by itself. Maybe even take her out to dinner that evening.
Art_Critic Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 I really can't tell you what to do but i can tell you that a Valentines Day gift is supposed to be for lovers..or for someone that you are smitten with and want to make your lover... So... Are you going to send her a gift ?- Maybe dinner .. You have mentioned that there is a mutual attraction ?... Are you smitten ?
whichwayisup Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 I agree, it all depends on the budding relationship/friendship itself. Minus Valentine's Day coming up, could you see yourself dating this woman for a long time? Is this a potiental long term thing, or are you not sure yet? Not sure if you want to do the card thing yet..But what you can do is, call her up and tell her, "for Valentine's Day, I'd like to take you out to dinner." And go from there. Or, just be honest and talk to her about your feelings about Vday. I mean, if she is into you, then she'll be just as honest back.
Author JohnDes Posted February 11, 2008 Author Posted February 11, 2008 I really can't tell you what to do but i can tell you that a Valentines Day gift is supposed to be for lovers..or for someone that you are smitten with and want to make your lover... So... Are you going to send her a gift ?- Maybe dinner .. You have mentioned that there is a mutual attraction ?... Are you smitten ? Oh yeah, you could say that. Is she smitten? I don't think yet. I'm basically trying to win her over and get her past the trust issues she developed due to previous relationships.
Art_Critic Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 Oh yeah, you could say that. Is she smitten? I don't think yet. I'm basically trying to win her over and get her past the trust issues she developed due to previous relationships. Well then..proceed.. just don't overboard.. elegant but simple..not a bunch of mush 3 red roses in a vase is elegant and simple.. not going to far.. Valentines Day is the only time in the year that sending red roses to someone doesn't mean anything other than what it is supposed to.. I want you...or I want you to be my valentine
EYECANDY000 Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 If you are interrested in her then send he at least a card. Im sure she wouldnt take it as being pushy on coming on to strong. Send something that is meaningful and simple. At least show her that you was thinking of her instead of avoiding her gor the entire day
Unsure Marie Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 I would at least send a small vase of flowers. I think if she is at least a little bit special to you then you should send flowers. Just don't go overboard. A couple of roses would be nice. If the two of you go out for dinner that night, then bring a small bouquet with you. All girls like flowers. They don't scream I love you, even if the two of you are not exclusive you can still let you know she at least deserves a little something extra now and then. She would probably be pissed if you didn't do a little something. And if you want to continue to see her do something.
Author JohnDes Posted February 11, 2008 Author Posted February 11, 2008 I would at least send a small vase of flowers. I think if she is at least a little bit special to you then you should send flowers. Just don't go overboard. A couple of roses would be nice. If the two of you go out for dinner that night, then bring a small bouquet with you. All girls like flowers. They don't scream I love you, even if the two of you are not exclusive you can still let you know she at least deserves a little something extra now and then. She would probably be pissed if you didn't do a little something. And if you want to continue to see her do something. Yeah, that's always the rub, isn't it? I'm afraid of doing something because I don't want to come off too strong, and yet I'm also afraid if I don't do something she'll really be upset. The thing is that I'm going to be out of town on business that day, so it's not like I can be around to take her to dinner or anything. Anyway, I just went to the flower store and ordered a small arrangement to be sent to her. I've been around long enough to know that I'd rather her be pissed off at me for sending them than for really being pissed off because she didn't get them.
norajane Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 Anyway, I just went to the flower store and ordered a small arrangement to be sent to her. I've been around long enough to know that I'd rather her be pissed off at me for sending them than for really being pissed off because she didn't get them. I have never been pissed off to receive flowers.
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