Last Night...

[sandflea]

OK - I scored 3 6th row tickets to see Alanis Morriset and Matchbox Twenty last night. The ex finds out about it, and asks if she and her sister can go. Hmmm. I thought it over, and her sister is much younger (like 20) - so I thought it would be a nice outing. Ohhh Boy... This boy must be thicker than a brick.

 

We got in a fight in the afternoon about this or that. It doesn't matter. The point is, it was really too late to sell the tickets to anyone else. Her sister shows up and I felt awful. I tell them I'm going to a local watering hole for a couple of beers before the show. I'm meeting a buddy there - and I tell her, look - I'll still sell you the tickets, just meet me there, and bring cash.

 

Well, she calls at the last minute wanting the tickets. We meet outside the arena, and while her sister pays me the full $52, Ex says she only has $14. I roll my eyes - and to avoid a fight, I cave. Granted, I'm a moron.

 

OK - so the first thing she does is to go and to get herself a big beer (how she afforded it is of course - beyond me). Then, about half way through the Matchbox Twenty set, she's crying. To make matters worse, she get into a fight with the guy seated behind her because he was "throwing beer on her". Everyone around us is embarrassed. I'm both pissed and embarrased - but the show is EXCELLENT! - So I go grab a beer and make the best of it.

 

Finally, after another 20 minutes of this or so she screams outloud, starts for the door - trampling everyone and pushing everyone out of her way. She takes time to elbow me in the gut, and her sister follows along. I felt terrible for her sis.

 

I'm starting to see some of the damage being done. Yes, I called it off, but this is really getting mean and ugly. Now she's saying she's going to sue me for all of the house, etc. Meanwhile forclosure doesn't sound too bad after all.

 

Summer can't get here soon enough.

 

Peas

 

SF

[Lyssa]

I can't believe you got to watch Matchbox Twenty!!!!!!!

 

Okay, I don't your full story but the act your X pulled - so uncalled for! Not in a public place, especially not at a matchbox Twenty concert!

 

I'm sorry you had to go through that but at least, the show was EXCELLENT!

[sandflea]

I can't believe you got to watch Matchbox Twenty!!!!!!!

 

Okay, I don't your full story but the act your X pulled - so uncalled for! Not in a public place, especially not at a matchbox Twenty concert!

 

I'm sorry you had to go through that but at least, the show was EXCELLENT!

 

Yeah - all drama notwithstanding, it was one of the best concerts I've ever seen. Rob Thomas is a showman's showman. He was so damn nice too! That boy can belt out some tunes!

 

It didn't ruin my night - yes, I would have enjoyed it more if things had been more copesetic. Still. Breaking up is hard to do..

 

SF

[Lyssa]

Rob Thomas is a showman's showman. He was so damn nice too! That boy can belt out some tunes!

 

Oh that boy is HOT!!

 

Breaking up is hard to do..

 

I love that song ...

[Art_Critic]

Well Sandflea..

 

You were in control of this.. even though you live in the same house that is no reason to continue to party and go out together..

 

If you truthfully want to end this then you need to end this...

[sandflea]

Well Sandflea..

 

You were in control of this.. even though you live in the same house that is no reason to continue to party and go out together..

 

If you truthfully want to end this then you need to end this...

 

I know. Trust me, I'm kicking myself, and I'm sure she is too. It's terribly difficult to do NC when you still live together, have the same circle of friends, etc. Obviously we're trying to work around each other, but that's really tough at times. She still wants to split groceries, bills, common items, etc - but she's pretty conflicted and given the history I need to just keep my head down.

 

From now on - no middle ground. It's sad, but it's clear that we can't be around each other.

 

SF

[ninjaturtles]

Is this the way she behaves usually??

[sandflea]

Is this the way she behaves usually??

 

There's always something wrong. I mean, generally speaking when you get home from work you're allowed - oh, say 15 minutes to bitch about your job. That's when your partner just listens - consoles - nods their head, and empathizes. But when it never stops? She's slighted by her boss, mis-understood by her family, and neglected by me. Her life sucks - and I can't fix it. In fact - It's all my fault.

 

Fact is - SHE needs to fix it. This is a beautiful, talented, smart, sexy civil engineer with excellent earning potential, and a bright future. She's athletic, funny, and warm. But she's miserable!

 

We are all responsible for our own happiness in this life. If you think you're going to meet someone and that's going to make you happy!?! WTF!>!

 

That's what falling in love is all about. You want a partner, not a crutch and certainly not a project!!!

 

SF

[Lyssa]

Oh I can't imagine what you're going through, SF. It must be tough.

 

Correct me if I am wrong, does she not give you the same treatment? As in whenever you b!tch about something? Does she listen, console and empathize?

[sandflea]

Oh I can't imagine what you're going through, SF. It must be tough.

 

Correct me if I am wrong, does she not give you the same treatment? As in whenever you b!tch about something? Does she listen, console and empathize?

 

Yes - she listens, and empathizes, and I feel better. We both support each other that way - and when it works, that's wonderful.

 

But most of the time it Doesn't work. And when it doesn't, our personalities clash like two prize fighters. Neither gives an inch. The name calling and accusations begin. I eventually recede from the fight - I hate fighting. Then we avoid each other. Then the cycle repeats itself.

 

This is not the kind of relationship that I want to be in - and try as we might, we can't seem to fix it. I think we've both come to the conclusion that we're just a bad match, and it isn't meant to be.

 

SF